SC:

I just read your post on one of the other threads and really was overjoyed that you are making significant progress. I didn't want to threadjack that thread but felt like that since I have not posted much recently that you should know that I still think often of your sitch and the progression of your feelings towards your BH over the first few weeks.

The amazing thing to me is that so many of us can rebuild the relationship after an A. This is counterintuitive to me as before I found myself in that sitch I would have sworn that the opposite was true and that the M would be over.

I thank God everyday for the relationship I now have with my FWW and for all those who have been able to recover their marriage and achieve the true intimacy that was intended for married couples. I look at amazement everyday on those that are farther down the road like MM and Mr. Wonderings and know that each day gets a little better even though our relationship is far better than it ever was before the A or D-Day.

I also pray for those who are unable to rebuild their M regardless of the reasons. I don't consider that a failure even though I think that those who are able to rebuild are a huge success. The ones that end up in D are nonetheless changed and have the tools to be a great spouse for someone who deserves them later down the road. I pray that they find peace and compassion for those who have hurt them.

Congrats on your efforts and success in your rebuilding process. I hope that our threads early on after D-day for you had some impact with making the move towards that rebuilding. Merry Christmas to you and all fellow MB's.

NT

ditto

Mr. W

NT,

Thank you for your kind thoughts and words of encouragement. I want you to know that your posts on my early threads were instrumental in "keeping me in the game". When I take a moment to realize that my marriage had been slipping into the sewer for YEARS, and that we've only been fighting our way back up to the surface for a matter of WEEKS, I too am very happy with our progress. Though I know we still have a ways to go.

Most people seem to think that an affair would end their marriage. But then again, they probably don't stop to think that affairs don't happen in a vaccume. My husband was very quick to say to me, "I know you're a good person. You made a bad choice. But one bad deed does not define who you are." Powerful words for a remourseful FWW to hear!

I am so happy for you and your wife, and was thrilled to hear that you recently renewed your wedding vows.

Thanks again for the "shout out" and Merry Christmas to you too!

--SC