apparently i have done a good job of telling him that as long as he continues to talk to OW behind my back, talk to other women on the phone(who are his "friends") then i don't have anything to say to him. i was at work the other night and talking with some of my staff (who are men) i supervise 11 programs and 4 of my direct reports are males, and he lost his mind and acted a fool.... "i was disrespecting him blah blah blah..." (a little background, i was actually watching my dd's bb game through the window at the same time) although he just had OW/OC at his apartment over the weekend... (more info on this ongoing saga in another post)

long story short, he has made a counseling appointment, calls multiple times a day (in the back of my mind i think he is just checking up on me), tells me he is going to change because he is tired of living this way, tells me that he loves me dispite of what i may think, blah blah blah... do i trust him? this is tough because i have "trusted" him so many times before and he can look at me and lie straight to my face, heck we were in counseling through our pastor and he lied straight to his face too... now that takes some guts.... help!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Only you can decide when you can no longer try again. When they lie and continue to lie, you need to decide if there are boundaries you can place on your marriage that would make you feel secure.