I remember a while ago someone on this board had mentioned that they keep a visitation log for the OC to go back and forth.

I am wanting to make up a log or binder of some sort for the boys to keep between me and their father. Is there something online I can print out? or do you guys have any ideas?

Ed and I do not talk at all. He will not give me his phone number, and he wont answer my pages. However, the courts have given him the right to visitation and I will honor that...I want to keep in this journal/log any calendars of upcomong events, the school schedules, play dates, etc...

Thanks!

Hey Mom! I've missed you!

Okay your log. You can make one. Also with the boys off days from school, what ever you get from the school just copy and send to him for his "future use".

Is he better about kepping the boys longer than a few hours? I would make theis journal so it can include everying. Espcially under some of your cirsumstcs.

Keep me posted girl, and I miss you! Not sure if any of this makes sice. thik alot of bw's would know how to set this up correctly, nad easily.

Email me sometime adn et me posted. Luv ya girl!

I'm glad you are doing well, MT3B... I know this is off topic of your log question...

Again, I look back and just want you to know how much your national appearances helped me. Lost71 and I (formerly NotTooLost) are doing very well, our girls are great. I wish filing for D had had the same effect on Ed. Occassionally we marvel at how that all went - and those shows were JUST what I needed to hear at the right time. I'm sure that was not an easy thing to go, bare all, and I just want you to know that it really really helped me. I just couldn't get up the resolve to file until I heard the things the doc said to you.

I'm glad your kids like their sister... I guess it makes it better if they like going over there than if they beg & cry not to go... I don't know. It sucks either way.

I'm glad you are doing well personally though, and I know you said something on the other thread about being a doormat back then, but I didn't see it. I thought you did a remarkable job trying to save your M, and you never have to second guess the effort you put into that, like your WH will have to.

MSA

Off the topic, but what national appearances are you referring to? Not much written or seen about other children and how to handle them. Thank God for this site! Thanks.

Dr. Phil...

Hey Mary, thanks for the suggestions. I'm trying to get everything sorted out here so I can keep close tabs on what he does and when he is late, etc...Which btw is EVERY SINGLE TIME...he is at least 30 minutes late every friday night.

We have standard visitation set up...he gets the boys 1st, 3rd and 5th wkds. Extended stays during holidays every other year and summers are divided. His weekday choice was every friday for 2 hours. Well, this past friday the boys waited and waited for their father to show up and he never showed. No call, no nothing.

He has told me that I do not have the right to have his phone number or know where he lives. I bought the kids a cell phone that they take with them when they visit their dad so that they can call me anytime they want to and I can call them. he told me that he if the kids want to talk to HIM that he will call their phone that I gave them...Well, number one, I bought that phone for them to call ME. he can buy them their own phone and I am not going to play these games with him.

I have tried to explain to him that it is not about him or me but about the kids. He is their father and God forbid something happened to them where I needed to get in touch with him. He was in that head on collision and needed to contact me. I rushed to the ER to be with them. He told me if anything like that happened that I could call his OFFICE! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> He's not at his office on the weekend!!!! I didn't pursue the conversation but just left it at that. He is not in a place where he can move forward and forget about what has happend but yet focus on what is best for the boys.

He has not paid me CS nor Alimony since it was supposed to start Nov 1. The AG's office is investigating it. They think the OW is getting the money, whether she is returning it or not, I do not know. I pray that Dad is smart enough to NOT accept the checks and return them, otherwise he will have to pay a very hefty fine not to mention a LOT of back CS.

Thank you for your kind words MS. I hope that my appearance on that show did help a lot of people. I would love to go back and do an update, but the judge in our case has resticted any TV appearances. I am doing very well. I am very happy and content with my new life. I hope that if my sitch can help at least one person out there and know that life will get better no matter the outcome.

Amazing how he is acting when he is the one that brought all this on. You are going to be far better off with out this man in your life. I pity the OW really. Well, maybe not. Maybe she's getting what she deserves too? I guess only time will tell.

I do hope that someday he is able to treat you with a little more respect, for the kids sake at least. He's being a grade A a$$ right now.

How can the judge restrict TV appearances now that the divorce is final?

My lawyer told me that my soon to be XH would have to be told of my new address if he is paying CS even though DD is old enough to refuse visitation. I would think that the courts would require this information of both parties to allow access to children. I would ask lawyer if court could require him to provide his address.

For his phone number, just check the incoming calls on your kids phones. If he calls from home instead of his cell, you may be able to even get an address from a reverse phone search.

Mom

Why is he so mad?

OW is getting the money? From Dad? Dad accepting what checks?

Bless your heart..the man is still crazy...hopefully not like a fox...

Geez,sounds like Dr. Ed is still acting like a self-centered raging little two year old!

To not have a way for the other parent to contact you is negligent in my book. And you know that Ed would be the first person to complain if something happened to one of the kids and he wasn't notified ASAP! Obviously he knows where you live and how to call you!

As for your original question, I, too, made copies of any papers that came home from school announcing events, dates, times, etc and sent them to my sons' dad. The one thing I learned, however, is that what I sent didn't always get delivered. Being typical children...tied up in their own worlds...they often forgot to unpack the information and hand it to dad, or from dad to me! This caused a few problems for awhile, until we figured it out. I eventually learned to ask them specifically, each time they came, if there was anything they were supposed to give me.

Keep up the great work!