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ComingAbout #1572308 02/23/06 05:28 PM
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I agree that the software is cheaper. However, you have to disable your anti-spyware programs for most of them to work. I did not have the correct access to modify this on the computer that I used. The software to capture screen images and the hardware key logger is a good overall combination. It is a bit pricey..

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I agree that the software is cheaper. However, you have to disable your anti-spyware programs for most of them to work. I did not have the correct access to modify this on the computer that I used. The software to capture screen images and the hardware key logger is a good overall combination. It is a bit pricey..

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Got, you shouldn't have to disable your anti-spyware program to accommodate most keyloggers. All you have to do is program it to ignore the keylogger, which is real easy. Just run the anti-spyware and if it shows up there is usually an option where you can select IGNORE. I know that you can do that with most of the top ones like Spybot, Adaware, and the new Microsoft anti-spyware.


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Oops, Let me clarify my comments. Some company computers require passwords to make any changes to the these sytems. Needless to say that the IT folks do not give this password away. This was the case with me. If you cannot get into the anti-virus/anti-sypware program, then the hardware key is much better.

For any machine that you have complete and total access to, then you are absolutely correct.

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The particular software which I had trouble with was Trend's MICRO OfficeScan. This program's options are not available without a separate password that is different from that of an adminstrator. For anyone looking to use keylogging programs with this anti-spyware, they only work until the computer is rebooted, then TREND removes the offending file. I had to fight this repeatedly. What I had to do was set the computer up with the key logger running and made sure that it was never rebooted (which was difficult as this was a laptop).

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I downloaded this keylogger for free:

http://www.kmint21.com/download.html

I hid it in a WORD document file. YOu can click on an icon so that it runs undetected. The only downfall is that you have to restart it every time you turn on your computer.

My husband is an IT person and he did not detect it. Also, virus scans did not detect it.

There is also an item you can connect between the keyboard cord and the port that it plugs into. You simply put it on, then later remove it, take it to another computer and download the keystrokes. The benefit of that one is that it truly can't be detected -- it's hardware, not software.

Voice activated recorders are awesome. Put one in the suspect's car, one in your house, one in his / her office if you can swing it. They even make some that look like ink pens. You can get a good /cheap one at Best Buy for $50.


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ComingAbout #1572313 02/27/06 02:06 PM
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Question.

My partner moved out and only checks e-mail from work.

The main computer is still in my possession.

The internet provider is Comcast.

Her "account" (user name) is the administrator or main account set up with Comcast.

I have a user account with my own password.

Can I get her e-mail password from my computer at home -- WITHOUT her knowing?

Thanks.

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Come on y'all -- I know one of you has the answers to my questions above.

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Chaka,

If she has not setup autologin, then you have little chance that any information would be stored on your machine. If she had setup autologin, then just try to get the email program running. Was she using Outlook or a webmail system?

Can you get any access at all to her computer at work? If so, then the dongle style keylogger will work. This will not interfer with any anti-spyware programs.

There are companies out there that say you can install keyloggers remotely. These are very expensive and I do not know if they would work. The computer that you are targeting is probably well protected and these programs are VIRUSES! Google "key logger" and you will get lots of results. The hardware version of a keylogger installs in seconds. However, you will have to make a second trip to retrieve it. Can you show up at your partner's work when they are not there? Can you enlist an accomplice?

If you call comcast, they will reset the password for you but typically cannot tell you what the password is (which will tip off your partner). I guess you could call them and ask about mail forwarding and see if they would help you out. Most often, this is something where the admin pw is required.

I now that this is not much help, but it is the best I can do. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

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how do you outsmart a computer genius? my spouse has a work provided cell phone so no access to that-and is a it network security geek- so I'm sure he would notice any sort of hardware or software

how does the voice recorder work if your spouse listens to the radio -does music or talk also get recorded?


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I am a computer geek also, but would not fine a (software) keylogger unless I was looking for it specifically. The hardware version connects at the back of the PC, so again I would have to be looking for it.

The voice recorder will pick up radio noise, but if positioned well, and the radio volume is not louder than the voice will work just fine. I recommend an external mic superglued near the steering wheel.

Look for a digial recorder that comes with the lavalier, or lapel external mic. or they can be bought separate. Tape or velcro the recorder under the dash and run the mic up the steering colum and attach the mic with a drop of super glue.

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Anyone have any ideas as to how I can access cell phone records on internet when all I know is: carrier, number, name and address. I don't know last 4 digits of SSN. This is cell phone of OM (would this be illegal?). Thanks.

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Someone else posted this link on another thread. I tried it using my own info, and it produced my address. So if you have enough info on the person your looking for and need an address, the price is right "FREE"..

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Hi all just to say i found this very interesting ,on spying. I have done the tape recording in car. i have Heard my H say thing to ow (our you sure that you are Divorced) (hi it me) .When played for him , he said he was talking to himself and told consellor same. WHAT A LIE. Sometimes thing back fire. Pansy

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Hi all just to say i found this very interesting ,on spying. I have done the tape recording in car. i have Heard my H say thing to ow (our you sure that you are Divorced) (hi it me) .When played for him , he said he was talking to himself and told consellor same. WHAT A LIE. Sometimes thing back fire. Pansy

PANSY, you don't need the admission of a liar to know if something is true or false. In your case, you had solid evidence and didn't NEED his admission. Did you burst out laughing when he said he was "talking to himself?" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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An alternative to spying, because it was literally making me crazy (and angry, and frustrated, and tiiired) was to say to my WH.

"This is NOT a court of law, and you are NOT innocent until proven guilty...this is a M, and my gut instinct tells me there is something underhanded going on. I will assume the worst, that you are in a FULL-BLOWN A unless you give me irrefutable proof otherwise. The burden of proof is upon YOU."


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It's truely sad that a person needs to do these things to find out what their spouse is up to, but what are you gonna do if they deliberately destroy all the trust you had for them.

Good thing my W knows there's nothing she can do to or on a computer that I won't find out about so she doesn't try anything on it.

If you suspect anything, before spending money on keyloggers etc. what you could do is open a windows explorer window, click on tools and go to folder options, click on view and then on View hidden files and folders.
Then click on your C drive, click on Documents and settings, click on the user's name or on the owner folder, click on Local settings and then on Temporary Internet Files. Here you should see lots of internet short cuts and pictures, go through and click on any of them that you think are strange, when you do, either a website will open or a picture and that should give you an idea of what websites are accessed. Passwords and emails and so on doesn't show up but if your S has a web email or goes on chat rooms etc. , atleast the website should show.

It will not give you all the info you need but should give you an idea if you need a keylogger or not depending on what you find, mind you that pop ups show too so it might take a bit of time.

Also a keylogger that works excellent is Spector Pro 5.0. Costs money but has excellent features, works in stealth mode and you need to press atleast 4 buttons at the sametime and then you put in your password, that one records everything. You can set it so it will email you if there's activity or certain websites accessed.
Also, if you can get someone from your S's work to install it on their work computer, you can monitor their activity from an outside computer depending on what features you buy.

This program in stealth mode will not show up anywhere, not even in the add/remove programs, it can only be uninstalled through the program itself.

Hope this helps.


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Ok, how do you figure out what is going on at work with your WW and OP? I've caught them talking in the parking lot after D-Day and recorded her talking to a friend about the OM, but she's gotten smarter or maybe it's over and she really isn't contacting the OM. I'd like to know for sure. I use to have access to her work email, but she changed her password a few months back.

I can't seem to get her to check her email at home, in which case I would have her password. Any ideas on ways to get her to check her email at home?

How about finding out what is going on inside the building at work. What can you do??? I don't have any contacts where she works.

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