He has chosen his lady over his garndchild which I think is very sad. Wonder if anyone can give me some advice on what to do as he will end up losing his family over this if he does not make a choice soon.
Well, sorry to see you in such pain and despair.
Seems to me that this has been going on for 4 years, and that your WH has more than made his decision (at least for now). I have to wonder why you place so much emphasis on your WH making a decision. People have to learn to LIVE with the consequences of the decisions they make. Enabling him will NEVER work in the end for you or your marriage.
You have a say in this to you know? Now you are gonna get advice to do "Plan A" with him, so I would like to point out an especially great post by Starfish that says what PLAN A really is about....You should realize that being "nice" is NOT the intent of the Plan. It is so mcuh more than that and yet being "nice" or tolerant of abhorrent behavior seems to sadly be the message that many get from this. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Four years is a long time to be suffering this. What have you done to nurture your heart and soul and dignity during this? NOONE, no matter how "nice" and "compassionate" can realistically tolerate 4 years of marital abuse (which is what inidelity is) and NOT be seriously and emotionally hurt and scarred.
So I ask you.......have you thought of fousing more on yourself and finding counseling for your heart while your WH continues to "decide" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> what to do.
The reason that a "decision" has not been made has more to do with YOU than him.
Think about that for a few minutes.
What do you think?
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