I spend most of my time lurking these days - not much is changing in my sitch, except that I am getting stronger in myself every day. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I read a lot about the WS 'crashing', about the affair world turning upside down and the fantasy imploding. I see many signs of this happening in other people's sitches, where the WS is crazy and out of control, obviously in freefall.
Not mine, though. He's always seemed so sure that what he's done is the right thing. Now, nearly ten months after he left, things are no different. In fact, the relationship between STBX and OW appears to have 'stablised', as the children have now met OW. They seem to like her, too.
My STBX is a classic CA. OW seems to be in control of him completely. She's a strong person. I wonder if she is a stablising influence on him - he seems to be drinking less, and is still calling the girls frequently, and is usually only a little late when he comes to take them out! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I see no signs of disorder, strife or conflict in their relationship. I realise, of course, that there is much I cannot see or know. But, after ten months, I had hoped to be able to detect more than this.
I don't want him back any more - except sometimes, on a cold night like this it would be nice to have a chat and a cuddle. You don't get much intelligent conversation from a hot water bottle, that's for sure. I wonder if he thinks about me at all. Although I'm divorcing him, I still think about him all the time. I wonder if any LB-ing goes on in the Septic Lovenest at all!
I think that he's too passive to crash. OW just wouldn't allow it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
Alph.
