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Havent posted for awhile, sometimes its really painful to me to read the posts here, and Ive been trying to heal and had been succeeding admirably. H and I were really close again, he's been loving and considerate, although I must admit a couple of things didnt add up here & there. Long story short H is in jail right now for a parole violation, (traffic) and when they were taking him in he told me to bring his cell phones, that the police wanted them, so I thought "okay...." and brought them. When he was being shipped to another facility for processing he tried to call me at 3:00am but all the stress had taken a toll on me and I was dead asleep. that morning I got a phone call from FOWs cousin (my H's best friend) that they shipped him out. He was very cagey while talking to me and I asked how did you know that? and he stuttered saying "he got a message from some dude". That got my mind to spinning.

Anyways, I got a phone call from one of the police officers that took him in and he told me that H was the one in a panic about his cell phones and why would they want them? And I also got the feeling that this officer was trying to ask me out , sigh, yes a married woman, on account of some risque photos of me in H's wallet, he even asked me about them. Pizzed doesnt even describe what I am feeling right now. I cant talk to my H until his court date on the 9th but I just know somethings up. I really dont know what to think, why would a police officer call me to lie to me? And I really dont think they would of needed his phones for anything. Like I said until I can think straight this has got to be the world's easiest plan B ever.


me31 h(fw)35 dd13 DD H's ONS june'04 H left Aug11'04 found out about OW aug14'04 H came home Dec28 1st recovery started in Feb 05 Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage Am I a fool?
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I must admit a couple of things didnt add up here & there. Long story short H is in jail right now for a parole violation, (traffic) and when they were taking him in he told me to bring his cell phones, that the police wanted them, so I thought "okay...." and brought them.

I cant talk to my H until his court date on the 9th but I just know somethings up. I really dont know what to think, why would a police officer call me to lie to me?

And I really dont think they would of needed his phones for anything.

A couple questions. What traffic violation and what was he on parole for?

I think the "circumstansial" evidence you have is pretty damning (is that how you spell it?), but you wanna know that the dead give away was that told me you were in a false recovery....?

"Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage " recovery going great happier than ever!

That statement just worried me. Dunno why, it did.

Lem

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Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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Felony driving without a license. I was hoping the cop was just a sick man, but I agree all in all it IS prttey damning.... Okay Lem no games whats the deadgiveaway?


me31 h(fw)35 dd13 DD H's ONS june'04 H left Aug11'04 found out about OW aug14'04 H came home Dec28 1st recovery started in Feb 05 Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage Am I a fool?
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sorry cross posts, I guess that was wishful thinking. And we were for awhile. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


me31 h(fw)35 dd13 DD H's ONS june'04 H left Aug11'04 found out about OW aug14'04 H came home Dec28 1st recovery started in Feb 05 Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage Am I a fool?
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I guess I got it a little easier than most betrayed spouses here who go to plan B I actually CAN'T talk to him even if I wanted to. I was just here looking for some support and someone to talk to, I'd like to rip him a new one but.... I can't


me31 h(fw)35 dd13 DD H's ONS june'04 H left Aug11'04 found out about OW aug14'04 H came home Dec28 1st recovery started in Feb 05 Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage Am I a fool?
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Ick Shelly, I'm sorry....it does sound like something amiss doesn't it?

They have to have his cell phones in storage or whatever, I know that he can't possibly have them, why don't you go and pick them up??? You're his wife, surely they'd let you get his possessions. Then you can see what all the fuss is about.


God Bless,

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Im not sure if they have his stuff at county or if they shipped them with him when they sent him to Stateville. And stateville really sux cause you get no phone calls for 30 days and no visits for 60 days. Its that way for all parole violations, but its driving me crazy not to be able to talk to him about it! im hoping that they ship him out soon if they choose to violate his probation.


me31 h(fw)35 dd13 DD H's ONS june'04 H left Aug11'04 found out about OW aug14'04 H came home Dec28 1st recovery started in Feb 05 Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage Am I a fool?

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