Since I talked last, I was spending the holidays on an air mattress at my sister's house while my sons spent Christmas with mom in Europe.
However, the final parenting plan has been filed with the court.
President's Week - With STBXW every year she's out of country.
Spring Break - Alternate between STBXW and me starting with me in 2006
Christmas Break - Alternate between STBXW and me starting with STBX in 2006
WW can visit two weekends per month.
DS9 must return to Seattle 3 days before school starts in the case of one week or longer vacations.
Summer vacation while STBXWW is out of country is from one week after school is out until two weeks before school starts, DS9 is in Europe.
For any other vacation to Europe, he must return 3 days before school, and must return 3 days before school starts.
I ROCK.... out loud! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Financial mediation is set for March 10th. I have appraisals for three properties we own hoping to expedite, but she didn't like the numbers and got three new appraisals. Very creative results.
Mine
DC condo $375K, CA house $750K, and Seattle house $802K
Her new estimates
DC condo $370K, CA house $650K <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />, and Seattle House $950K <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
STBXWW seems to be confused about why I would challenge her appraisals and not simply just split the difference. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
BECAUSE ITS A $250K difference!!! So those of you who think I'm rich, I'm trying to keep a house in a neighborhood my sons have lived in since 1999. I don't care what it's worth except I want to be able to pay the mortgage by myself.
I sent STBXWW a message explaining I wanted to settle this in arbitration rather than court, but that the appraisals were kind of far apart to simply split the difference, and needed to be examined. I also suggested if she got a job in Seattle, she would be closer to DS9.
She responded as follows:
I don't have the option for getting a job back in Seattle, mainly because of you actions Sleepless - your email (sent to friends and coworkers notifying them of the affair with the 19 year old)... you can talk to Friend and everyone else about this all you want, but the truth is, they aren't the decision makers--- it's those in DC. I also can't see being ANYWHERE near you - ever- because I simply don't trust you and I expect each time I see you are that doing something manipulative behind the scenes. (Because the cops might arrest her if she attacks someone again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />)
That's it simply put- I called because I thought that you would be surprised by your lawyers actions.. actions which to me seem to only raise the $ you are paying... everytime I hear something new about what she is doing, I keep thinking that you wouldn't REALLY be like that and it must be her, but I have come to realize that you are the one driving the boat and it appears that $ and inflicting pain is all that you care about. I won't be calling to talk about this again between us - we'll let the lawyers handle it.
In some ways, I am glad that all this has come to pass between us, because it has taught me a huge amount about judging character... do you realize I haven't had a migraine in 9 months??? Do you realize that I started having the migraines while we were dating!! funny how the body reacts to situations and tells you if you when something isn't right. Right now I feel absolutely WONDERFUL (you sound wonderful... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />) for the first time in a lot of years. You were sucking the life out of me.. and you knew it..(I'm a regular body snatcher!)..My only regret is that you couldn't let me just leave YOU - YOU were the only one I needed to escape from... and if we had gone with our original agreement, DS9 would have not had to go through all of this and would have had both of us in his life in a manner very similar to what it was the whole time we were married (with his mom having an affair with a 19 year old boy and an occasionally physically abusive mother. Why would I want to change THAT? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />) Sorry about venting.(It's OK, you're entertaining).. but I needed to get that out there and make sure you don't ever have hopes of us being "friends" (I'm trying not to choke on my tongue.) or more by making remarks that I have to move back to Seatle.
STBXWW ran out after OM19 February 27, 2005. And she hasn't changed at all, and mybe even gotten worse! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
DS19 is communticating more. He has three jobs to make money so that his mom can't manipulate him anymore, and has recently told me, "Dad, mom's acting kind of immature right now." Yes, she is DS19.
I hope most of you are well. I'm sorry to have neglected my post.
God Bless you all!
Sleeplessnseattle.
