Thanks NSYN. The reason I came here is because people aren't judgemental. I swing between thinking "I don't know why I should even bother" to really wanting to make a go of things. I will keep everyone posted, but I know I need to make a decision soon for my own piece of mind.

Lisa

Huh?

My judgement WAY above wasn't judgement enough? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You CAN find a good man, Lisa.

WAT

That was another reason you made me laugh, but you wouldn't judge me if I decided to give it a go, you would help me. And the other thing is, it's wonderful to know that I have people out there who really care about me and my well being.

Lisa

You're right Lisa - I and others here care about you.

So you let us know - if you decide to give it a go - and I for one will judge him up-side the head if he hurts you again!

WAT

Lisa:

RM's remarried, but my W has still had contact with him even so. She'll come around, I think.

Hopefully, I'll still be willing 2 stick around. Probably.

-ol' 2long

Thank you WAT - it's good to know there's someone out in cyber space with a the famous MB 2x4 ready to fight my corner.

We had a long conversation last night, and I just want him to "get it". Sometimes he does, and then he says "Well, it's not like we were married and I had an affair" and I want to grab him by the throat and shake him!?!?!?! Of course not, but the point is he lied consistently and threatened my health, and that's what I want him to get - what are you going to do to protect yourself and me to make sure it doesn't happen again. I think he will get it, because it took me a while to figure out.

And you know, I'm quite lucky, because I can give it a try and if it doesn't work out, I'm still not married. And if it does, who knows!

2Long, you have a faith and patience which is quite remarkable. I only hope for your sake that your W is worthy of it and does come around.

Lisa

Lisa:

Yeah, that'd be cool. I think she's worthy, and do think she may come around. But if she doesn't? Well, then she doesn't and I've learned my lesson from my experience. I'll leap!

-ol' 2long