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Re: Stains on underwear?
beatndown #1614899 03/17/06 09:49 AM
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Pocket Pool?

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Re: Stains on underwear?
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have you washed them yet????

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Have`nt washed them yet
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This would be a huge red flag for me. I would go directly to sleuth mode.

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Aptiva, I think that more important than the underwear stains (ew) is the suspicious feelings that you have. You've lived with your H a long time and know him very well. So, if I were you, I would pay attention to your feelings, and do some investigative work.

I can't help you there, but my friend found out about her H's A by searching his cell phone. Maybe you could start there.
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eldente #1614905 03/17/06 10:34 AM
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The guy may have had a wet dream, got excited and just came in his pants and now he's up for execution..

Look, now I do NOT think that an A or adultery is a laughing matter ladies, but this is in no uncertain terms.. ridiculous..

ASK HIM!! 30 years married and sex every day so I'd say you know him well. His reaction will tell you../ unless he's embarassed to tell you that he actually came in his pants..

Oh.. and if you do have CSI Miami-type forsensics performed on his drawers, you had better hope it's not another guy's semen that they find in his underwear!!

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Earthman,
This woman is upset- have you no mercy? Good grief. You are allowed to be a total jerk to other posters, yet let any one say anything in your post that you disagree with and you go off the deep end.
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moveforward #1614907 03/17/06 10:41 AM
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WHOA! I said in my first post that he may have been *************and she came back all defensive and said that they have sex every day..

Whatever..

and it's funny to me... and I'm entitled to my opinion.
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Earthman, your first comment was not the issue the following ones where you lowered yourself to the level of a child are.
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Grandparents since Dec.2005
Recovered and moving on and we're looking forward to the years ahead!
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EarthMan #1614912 03/17/06 11:02 AM
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Earthman if my hubby wore his BVD`s at nite I would assume that DUH! But if you read most my post`s you would know for most of the 30`s years they were`nt like that another DUH! And for his Friend, she lives not but maybe one quarter mile from us so this has me wondering.
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Hope this is the right place to ask this one. How does a man get a HUGE stain on the front of his BVD`S? I dont mean a quarter size, but a HUGE stain and this is not urine!!! Its almost like something was spilled on the front of the underwear but its not from that this is semen mixed with?

I sympathize with you.. in fact the very same incident happened to me and when I questioned my STBX he told me it was from a urinary tract infection <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> so even though you may question him about it he may not be truthful.... later on I found out he was having an affair that was ongoing for quite some time...go with your gut on this one <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

M 30 yrs. WS 50 (him) BS 51 (me) S 30 Granddaughters 5 and 8 DD July 4/03 MO Oct 4/03 NC Feb 14/04 Resumed A with OW March 1/04 Filed Petition for Divorce Jan13/05 How Many Roads Must A Man Travel Down Before He Admits He Is Lost?
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aptiva #1614914 03/17/06 11:11 AM
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aptiva,

I can understand you completely!!!

Something "funny" came to my mind. (I'm sorry, I know this situation is far from being funny) but I'd like to share what I did one time.

I had a strange feeling and my husband was going through withdrawel..............well, I know this is NOT Âla Marriage Builders..........but I mixed my husband a drink that contained something to produce the *****!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

He didn't come home with semen stains........that's for sure!!!!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I thought at that time that if he still was meeting with OW.......at least he wouldn't be having fun!!!! (you just have to make sure that the timing is right!)

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New Outlook #1614915 03/17/06 11:12 AM
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Aptiva,

The last thing you need to do is defend yourself against earthman. Don't worry about it. Just keep on posting and we'll continue to work around his interjections.

Hopefully the mods will jump in if he continues and set him straight. Again.

What else, besides the underwear, has been going on that has your radar on?

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*Blondblossom* #1614916 03/17/06 11:15 AM
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Thats a great idea and cute too.lol but my hubby is a construction worker I never know when or really were he is at do to he can leave work at anytime, no cell phone,ect. so I would`nt could`nt do that one but thats a thought...lol thanks
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We have our own business.............my husband can also come and go as he wishes and I wouldn't know!!!!!

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hubby has a side job he did last sunday came home reallllllllll hyper. RED FLAG there! then I found the underwear at the bottom of the hamper
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