I have a question that maybe you can help me with. I don’t know if I am being over bearing or not however I have strong convictions about this. I and my wife have been married for over 2 years now. We have been together for about 3 ½ years. For this length of time, I have been the one that pays for everything. When I say everything I mean every single thing. I often complained that it was too much for me to take care of everything in this household by myself, but I never got help. My wife would work, and when I asked her to pick up a bill, she would quit her job. There were times where I would go negative in the bank 3 and 4 hundred dollars trying to pay for them all. Well I have finally gotten to the point where I got into financial trouble and had to dig myself out. I had defaulted on some student loans and almost lost my truck. I have stabilized my finances to the point where I have become frustrated, because I had to do it all myself. I am now to the point where I don’t want to be with her. I feel more like a care taker than a husband. We have two children that I take care of. The only thing that I don’t pay for at this time is daycare, and I have to do that now. My wife has started a new job. Typically she gets a job that doesn’t require a baby sitter because it was on my off hours. However she has elected to get a job during the day when I work, so now we need a baby sitter. At her new job, she will be making about 7 bucks an hour. She found a friend that will watch the girls for 80 bucks a week for both of them. I told her that I was not paying for the daycare and that she can pick up the bill. She said that she might as well not work because she will not have any money. That doesn’t make sense to me, why should I have to pick up another bill because she wants to work? After bring home and paying for daycare, she will have $500 to do whatever she wants. She told me that I was being unreasonable and that I should split the daycare with her, because I make more. I make about $50,000 a year; however that is not the point. There is no partnership at my house. I pay the rent, electric, gas, water, car insurance, car note, grocery bill, my personal bills, by the girl’s diapers and clothes, basically everything. There are some months I have some money left over and some months I don’t. If I was making 1,000,000 a year, I would still expect her so pull something. I have to clean my house, and basically it comes down to the point where I am asking myself, why am I married? What is the benefit? If this is a partnership, why am I the only one? Please give me some advice.
