I haven't been to this site in a couple months. I have been busy, trying to change myself for the better.

There were alot of people that really helped me at this site before, and I am in need of some more advice.

I have been in plan A for 7 mos. I thought we had made it but just the other day I started checking the phone records and his voice mail again and heard messages from OW asking when he was going to come see her. I continued to check the phone records online and saw that he continued to stay in contact with her so I loaded all his clothes up in his car and attempted to change the locks on the house. I was not ale to get the locks changed in time because I had to go to my DS talent show and WH got home before me.

When I came home I told him that I did not want to talk to him or see him anymore till he could prove to me that all contact with OW had stopped; so I thought he should leave. He told me he wasn't leaving and that he wasn't cheating on me just talking to her on the phone. Then he tried to turn the Blame on me by saying I was not treating him like an adult by putting his clothes in his car without confronting him first.

The reason why I didn't confront him frist was because I knew it was happening I heard the voice mails from OW and saw by the phone logs he was calling her and I knew he would deny it all.

I had called his sister to see if I can take his clothes to her house and she apparently told his mom, so now he is upset with me that they know but still swears there was nothing going on.

He swore on DS life that he was not cheating, and promised to give me all his passwords and proof that he was not in contact with her anymore.

I am going to give him till Monday to provide me with an email or phone call to OW telling her not to contact him anymore.

If he doesn't do that what should I do? I don't want to leave my house because I did nothing wrong

Married 8 years
M 26
WH 28
DS 1 7 years old
Plan A since Sept 05

You may need to get with an attorney and file for legal separation or divorce in order to get him out of the house. If he's still in an affair 7 months after exposure and initiating Plan A, you need to safeguard your finances and get started on setting up a good Plan B. You've already gone a considerable length of time past the average for doing Plan A.

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