For anyone who remembers me I decided to let go of my hubby as the stress of dealing with him, his lies and his affair was too much for me.

I'm moving on, taking care of me and my kids and trying to forget all the pain I've gone through. I'm doing a pretty good job of it too.

My H's affair ended when the ow went back to her hubby. They are now in counseling and hubby is devastated and not handling it well, according to my 22 year old daughter who is still in contact with him.

My 15 year old has completely shut him put of her life - will not see or speak to him. He's not handling that very well either. Though I am in Plan B stillI had to speak to him regarding car insurance and tax refunds. We had a civil conversation but I did ask him if she (ow) was worth losing his daughter over and he began to cry. I didn't feel sorry for him though. He made these choices and now he's living with the consequences.

Although I know there is really no chance for my marriage to be repaired I will not file for divorce. He wanted it, he'll have to do it.

Maybe there's a lesson here for ws's, which is why I decided to post this update. Here was a man who had the world and it wasn't enough for him. Now he has nothing but regrets.

IamSoLost,
I remember you, your D Day is close to mine and you responded to one of my first posts. I am sorry that your husband couldn't wake up in time to save his "life" with you. I hope you move on to a better one and your daughter can rebuild her relationship with her father as she gets older.

Hi girl, I've been wondering about you.

Thanks for the update - you sound strong.

Keep up the good attitude. You are winning the game of life.

WAT

Hi

I just want to say Good luck in whatever you do and to continue to stay as strong as you are. I hope everything is roses for you from now on. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for the well wishes. I'm trying to stay strong.

I had to call hubby about new insurance cards last night. I called his work an OW, along with other outside employees, was there working on inventory. She answered the phone. I cringed when I heard her voice but still asked to speak to hubby. She said he was busy and could she take a message. I replied "Could you have him call his wife, whose family you helped destroy" she sputtered and replied yes and hung up. I felt so empowered and in control. It doesn't seem fair to me that she just goes on with her life as though nothing happened and my kids are a wreck.

I dream of moments like that. I'm glad you felt empowered, i always thought I might feel a little sheepish after I'd done it.
Get on with YOUR life now.
Now it's time for YOU.
Let him go. Really, not just physically.
Kate xxx

Thanks bay,

I'm working on me and moving forward without him. The kids are what's hard. My teenager says she hates her dad and won't see him or speak to him. I don't know which way to guide her. I understand her anger and hurt but I don't know how to handle this. My 22 year old is getting married in the fall and she is defending hubby's right to "find someone that makes him happy". I fear her going into marriage thinking that way.

It just seems that H made decisions that affected everyone and never looked back. I don't know how to help my kids understand.