its very hard to face the truth specialy when the mind the heart cannot agree on whether to step out of the relationship or to stand firm while there is caos with in our own home. I believe you should confront him infront of your councelor to avoid any confrontation. It would be best if you could show your evidence to your councelor ahead of time so that he might be able to guide you on how to confront the situation. Maybe then you will get an honest response from your husband and you can get emotional support to ease the pain.

good luck