Ok everyone that has followed me so far, I spoke with W today. First time since Sunday. I went by the OM house where she is staying(he wasn't there) to pick up a puppy that I gave to a coworker. We talked briefly and asked her to do me a favor and fill out the Needs Questionaire, I told her she didn't have to if she didn't want to but I'd appreciate it if she could. She said she would! I also asked her what she wanted me to do about the divorce, if she wanted me to go ahead or if she wanted me to wait. She very softly asked if I would wait and I told that was mt preference as well. I informed that I had not given up on her. She had such a sad look on her face that all I could say to her was "Don't ever feel like you have no place to go, you can always come home, I'll sleep in the den and you can have the bad, but you have a place to go." She started crying and said thank you. I went back to work feeling good and bad at the same time (I'm still having a very hard time without her, she was my life, my breath) Later that evening my Daughter's mother dropped her by the house(ex-girlfriend). I told her we had to talk. I told her that it was not good that we were such good friends and that I'm glad we're not enemies but that it would be better if we made other arrangments to exchange our daughter (that sounds awful) anyway the reason behind this was that she was my OW two years ago and I felt seperation was best. I wanted this for my wife and for myself. She did not seemed bothered but told me that my wife had been with more men than I knew about. This has somewhat put a damper on my feelings of hope. I look forward to any advice.
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