The rain and gloom is getting to me today.

Me too...it's been so grey here in NC all week. :-(

The weather is actually very nice where I am - but it's still a crappy day - I know what you mean.

AND, its going to be cold and rainy for the next couple of days.....*sigh*

not to add to the gloom, but I think it may actually be like that for years in my case ..... what a life.

me too.....

I'm not sure what your situations are....but it can't be THAT bad.

There is always something to smile about! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I don't know y'alls' situtations either, but you appear to be more optimistic than us - maybe we're just having a little pity party (to steal a phrase from another poster).

I agree, by the way, there is always something to smile about, but is it a real smile when underlying it is a feeling of anger (in my case) or grief or despair or whatever that you don't think is ever going to go away?

The grief and/or despair will go away, eventually. I promise! I'm dealing with that too.

I believe you - it's just hard to see right now. Especially when you don't really know what is going to happen - or what you even want to happen. You know?

Big Hug for you.

Don't you wish this was more like car ownership. Freaking thing breaks down and the decision is easy. What is it going to cost to fix it? If it is too much we trade it in for a new one.

The pity parties are fun but I am failing to hear about what is being served. I am always fond of pigs in a blanket and martini's.

I always have plenty to smile about. Two wonderful kids, a fairly good job, I am not dead yet. (This may be the death of me but not so far) Thats where I get my real smiles. Plus I a damn good looking and good in the sack who wouldn't want that besides my FWW.

I have been eating a anger, grief and despair burrito for almost 3 years now. It is no longer going to give me the indegestion it once did. Just going to take sum Tums. Sooner or later though I am going to get sick of that burrito and move on to Sushi if you know what I mean.

I think I'm on the other side of this, I'm a FWW. Don't hate me pls. In recovery with H and doing great.

I think you're on what they call the "rollercoaster" - it sucks.

I'm here if you want to chat.

Mother's day my H left me to be on a "business" trip to see the OW. Meanwhile i was home with 2 kids having my house invaded by wasps. Coming up to D-day #1 but still painfully suffering from d-day #2

I am so sorry....oh my gosh. My heart breaks for you, the same it does for my H.

Are you trying recovery? Is he willing?

How old are your babies, mine are 3 and 11 months.

i know this forum isn't to supportive of pity parties...i am just trying to vent this here before H comes home so i can be the "happy" wife for him to see. While he is at work i am sorting thru my feelings and getting in a few good cries.

I could go for a Martini whos serving?

I am not sure if there has ever really been recovery. Cant get into MC because my H has been unemployed (is working a 2 week consulting gig right now) Trying this on our own and miserably failing....

funny thing is that today the phrase "I love you but i am not in love with you" popped in my head. I know that this has been said many times by the WS but do BS ever feel this and say it. I am sort of feeling that right now.

I don't think I've ever said that. Matter of fact, I'm certain of it. I'm also certain that I've THOUGH, loudly enough for several people to hear, "I love you, but right now I'd like to stick my boot up your..."

I'm having an off day today too. Doubts keep popping up. Kinda like that dumb Whack-a-Mole game. You smack one down, another pops up. Today, I started thinking back to the end of the movie Caddyshack where the little gopher gets his gopher hole bombed. Eventually, he pops his head up, coughs and sputters, then starts dancing around singing, ~~I'm alright. Don't nobody worry 'bout me.

((((((lost))))))))

Hang in there....I could go for a nice chilled glass of wine!

I'm here if you want to chat more.

Then lets just make this BYOB. By the way should we just order Pizza.

I am in sales for a living imagine how hard it is to keep on a happy face all the time. No one wants to buy from a pissed off person.

Anyway in almost every sales training they will tell you look to the left of you and then to the right of you. Only one out of every 3 people in this class will make it. So either the person to the left and right of you will become that statistic or you will. The ones that make it are the ones that work the hardest. HMMMM

In marriage you only have to look one way because the D rate is about 50%. Right now I really don't want to be that statistic.

I don't want to be part of that statisic either!!!