First of all, for those who continued my previous thread a few months back, thanks... I had to duck out of town for work for a little while there, and kind of missed the end of it. But to wrap that up, I really never spoke to her much again after that... lesson learned, I s'pose...

Moving along...

I signed up for eHarmony again a month or so ago... after a few matches that never got anywhere... I met a great girl...

We did the eHarmony rat maze of communication, emailed back and forth a few times, and we set up a coffee "date" to meet...

Well, it went better than expected. With internet stuff, you never know... I had my clothes in my car to change into, because I planned on staying at the coffee shop for about an hour, and then I was going to play basketball at my church... We stayed at the coffee shop for 2 hours... then went to the mexican restaraunt down the block for dinner... It was crazy!

She came to see me play music this Tuesday... Even spent an hour trying to find the place after I gave her bad directions....(Oooops...)

She met up with my friends and I the next night, for trivia at a restaraunt.

And we have our first "real" date tomorrow... It's really been good...

Anyway, here's my question:

She just graduated law school last week. She invited me to join her and her female friend (whom I've met... the friend has a BF...) at her graduation party. Here's the catch. ALL of her family will be there. ALL of them.

I'm not grossly intimidated by the situation, but we've only known each other for a few weeks... and everything I've read and heard, is that meeting "families" early on is generally not a good idea.

She's given me the opportunity to not go... said she understands if I didn't want to go, but I'm "MORE than welcome." So, it's safe to say she wants me there... I really enjoy being around her...

So, whaddya think?

GO!

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Meeting the "folks" can be different for each person....is it a biggy for you? If so, then I understand your hesitation. But the impression I'm getting here is that it isn't so much for her, so I don't think it "locks" you into anything, or means anything more than she wants you to participate in her special day and her family just happens to be there.

This is a special occaision (otherwise, I'm sure you wouldn't be meeting them) that she wants you to be a part of. Very nice gesture I say, and if you want to go, go and enjoy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Yabbut think of it as getting a sneak peak at what you might be getting into, kwim? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I never had any fear of "meeting the parents". First, I make a good impression <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />, so why not? Second, it does give you a chance to look for any wackos in the family, ahem. And third, why not? As long as you are not being passed off as "The BF" after two or three dates, what's the big deal? Go! Only warning would be if your gut is telling you that she is WAAAAAAAAAY ahead of you, and is already looking at you as The BF - then you might wanna tap the brakes <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

Tap the brakes... I like that.

I honestly don't know if I would be passed off as the BF or not... I really don't think so. But I'm as clueless as they come.

I agree with you, as far as the wackos go. And I'm fairly clean cut, intelligent, well-spoken... Chicks may not always go for the nice guy, but parents love me...

I pretty much had decided to go. I mean, if she wants me there, again... why not?

At my company, I'm often invted into other departments' meetings to play "Devil's Advocate." I guess I'm just trying to make sure I wouldn't be doing something detrimental.

I agree. Go. You're a "date" not a boyfriend for this function. I think it's nice she wants to see you there. What fun.

This is a special occasion and she invited you. Take it as that, not as an introduction to the family.
If you do hit it off, and this becomes permanent, how would you feel if you missed this event?

I always let a guy meet my family fairly soon, it lets me know how true he is!!!!!!

You have to know myfamily to appreciate it!!!!!

Dawn

I'm so glad, FM!
I.e. I would go <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


Nice invitation.

Btw, why would early meeting her/his family be a bad idea?
It can give you only good directions where to go from there... Just watch, don't forget to enjoy too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />