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Things are uneventful LT, and that's quite alright for the time being.
The biggest part of my weekend was spending my yd's birthday with just her. It was her father's weekend, but I had her for the day on Sat.
Other than that, I was alone for the rest of the time, and it was okay. I didn't bother me at all. Kind of weird.
The boating sounds fun! Enjoy your summer concerts.
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Hi ladies-
It's me, your long lost pal. I have to admit I took a break away from things and got sucked backed into the mess with the xbf. Then I started lurking here, but I was too embarrassed to show my face and admit that he had pulled me back again. I was beginning to doubt my sanity!
Anyhow, I am back in the life of the single and living. In many ways it is very hard, but in others it is so invigorating! I feel like a huge weight has been lifted and am keeping myself very busy so I will have no free time for him. I have also stopped taking calls, texts, and e-mails. He keeps telling me I am crazy, but he is a nut!
I get to leave for Mexico in a week and a half with friends so that will be a wonderful diversion. I think a MB get together would be great!
On another note, my X got child support reduced by 2/3 effective June 1st. He had his hours cut back at work, but started a business that is really doing well - unfortunately for me all those profits are miraculously remaining hidden.
Karona best of luck on all of your dates. I am hoping to be in your shoes before long. Newly good luck with your X, he is a piece of work.
I've missed you all!
Take care and God bless!
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Hello SR, glad to see you here.
We all need to learn not to get "sucked in" when we know things aren't right. We are all guilty of it, but sometimes it's easier to have someone around, then wait for the right one.
Stay strong.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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Still,
I have thought about you many times and wondered......
Don't feel like you can't show your face though. You are among friends here, and we've all been thru our own junk.
I was in my own mess, and shame became a big part of it.
All the break-ups and back togethers, I know the feelings you have carried.
I saw my xbf in April, he asked about us getting back together and I said no, we can't go back.
The wonderful times with him were that, wonderful. But it's *the stuff* that keeps me from going back. It would be easy, I know it, it's familar, he was great to my girls and I, BUT.... its the BUT that reminds me that I could not be 100% happy that's what keeps me from going back.
Still, you are deserving of that same happiness. Hold out for it!
Have a great trip. I bet you will have a blast.
Glad you chimmed in and filled us in!
K!
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Well friends, as if I didn't have enough of my last blind date, I *think* I'm going to go on another one.
NO, not with the same guy.
It's another weird set up. It's thru a [not close] friend's husband. I don't know either of them well, and the guy they are setting me up with works with her husband. I guess her husband thought of me some time ago, but she just now has asked me if I would go.
I'm thinking, after the last one, what the heck.
Funnier, I don't even get nervous anymore about this stuff.
I have no expectations and don't think past the first meet.
I don't know when or even if it will happen, but at least I'm being thought of.
Karona Soooooooooooooooooo how'd it go Karona??!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Your funny DW!
Actually, the call came last night for lunch today, but my daughter had an unexpected doctors appointment today.
I don't know as of yet when it will be re-attempted. I'm going out of town this coming weekend and my mother will be staying with me for the whole following week, so right now I'm not sure when or if it will happen.
I'm struggling with meeting him lately. I started inquiring to see if anyone knew him besides this couple. [who btw are good people] Seems a friend of a friend knows of him, says he's hot. However, she also says, she *thinks* he's a player. She's seen him with different women. And she *thinks* he cheated on his wife.
I'm wondering at this point if I go thru with it or not.
Any suggestions??
As far as the last heart breaker guy of mine. My friend saw him in church with his gf. So, looks like the 2 mo timeline is not going to happen in my case. The stranger thing in all of that is, anyone that knew his wife says this woman looks amazingly like her. Kind of creepy.
How about you? Are things still going well? I hope so!
You give me hope!
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I'm struggling with meeting him lately. I started inquiring to see if anyone knew him besides this couple. [who btw are good people] Seems a friend of a friend knows of him, says he's hot. However, she also says, she *thinks* he's a player. She's seen him with different women. And she *thinks* he cheated on his wife.
I'm wondering at this point if I go thru with it or not.
Any suggestions?? I'm really conflicted on what advice to give here Karona, b/c part of me does this <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> at ANY implication of this... And she *thinks* he cheated on his wife. BUT there seems to be alot of *thinks* here w/o any concrete proof, and I do try to believe/live by the "innocent until proven guilty" rule..... Sooooooo I say, if he calls again, give it a shot, spit and polish your "player/infidel" radar and see what this dude is about.....Just b/c he's seen w/ alot of women, doesn't make him necessarily a player, unless she saw him w/ multiple women on the same day! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Go w/ your gut and first impression. It WILL NOT steer you wrong....wish I'd taken my own advice w/ my very own "playa" experience! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> As far as the last heart breaker guy of mine. My friend saw him in church with his gf. So, looks like the 2 mo timeline is not going to happen in my case. Hmmmmm, well my timeline was 4 mos, but I'd continue as you are doing...getting on w/ your life! How about you? Are things still going well? I hope so!
You give me hope! You are so sweet! Thanks for asking. Things still going very well between BF and I *knocks wood*, but I'm still healing, STILL not feeling 100% (as in, when's the other shoe gonna drop <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />) but I figure that's all par for the course and BF and I are growing closer and more comfy and secure in our feelings and relationship.....I think we are in the Infatuation/Uncertainty phase....not completely one or the other-maybe a byproduct of us dating almost for a year before? <shrug> I dunno, but I do know that I ADORE him and feel all googly and think he's the best thing since sliced bread, but I KNOW he's not perfect, has hurt me greatly before, and not everything he does is cute, but man o' man, do I love him..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Hugs! DW
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And "eek" is exactly what I'm thinking DW. Your thought is the same as mine. "Thinks" but I'm not hearing facts. If the opportunity presents itself, I will go with radar in the on position. Concerning Mr. Wonderful, yes, I will continue to move on. I'm no longer losing sleep over him, but I would be lying to say I don't think about him. Things still going very well between BF and I *knocks wood*........ but I do know that I ADORE him and feel all googly and think he's the best thing since sliced bread, but I KNOW he's not perfect, has hurt me greatly before, and not everything he does is cute, but man o' man, do I love him..... I do understand your caution, but from what you are describing, I think you've got it. Accepting the not so cute with the very cute, and loving him totally, is what we all desire. If [and I don't think he will] he were to repeat history, it's going to hurt regardless if you're feeling 100% or not. I'm imagining you're not wanting to feel like the "fool" if it were to happen, but remember what he did was honorable to an extent. He did it in the love of his children. It appears to me that your relationship is stronger today because of yesterday. I'm happy for you. Enjoy! K!
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So did the alleged "playa" call again? Any updates m'dear? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> DW
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Hey DW!
I've been hesitant to update on the "playa", since I seem to hold the title for Ms. One Date Wonder.
We did have lunch last Tuesday. It was nice, he is handsome, [translates to, pleasantly surprised! However, almost too good looking for my comfort actually] and I didn't feel that Playa potential or cocky disposition that I would have thought him to carry based on his profession. That being said, my wall was up! I was on full playa alert, not to mention, trying to pick up on the reason he is divorced. I did not find out the reason, other than for him to say "it just didn't work out". They were married for 10 years.
I would go out again. Conversation was easy, and I thought things went well.[actually, the couple that set us up did call me to hear my side of the date. I told her I would go again, she said he told her husband the same. So, possibly, I may resign the title, this time.] However, I have not heard from him since. On a side note though, I do know that he would be on vacation this week, and he mentioned he would be taking his sons somewhere.
For now, I wear the sash.
So, there we have it. Thanks for caring DW!
Things still going well for you with bf? I hope so. You give me such hope.
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Ah well sounds promising then K! Only part that has my guard up a bit is I did not find out the reason, other than for him to say "it just didn't work out". I realize it was the first date, and a bit early to prob delve into such a heavy subject, but I'd definitely keep my eye out on that one. When you've got nothing to hide.....kwim? So, hopefully you'll hear from him again and keep us all apprised of the juicy bits! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Yes, BF and I still going strong. He's taking me back home for a long weekend after the 4th, to meet the rest of his family. I'm pretty stoked I have to say! It'll be fun to get to tour where he grew up. Here's to shedding your sash! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> DW <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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