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Hello everyone I'm new here. My wife of 13 years, two kids, tells me that since I'm her only sexual experience she wants to "play". She first tried to suggest a three some, another girl, then another girl. Neither has happened. Since getting a new job, she has started hanging out with single women who are influencing her. She is a professional with a demanding job and is always working even at home. When she drinks she touches other people suggestively and has even openly told other women that she wants to have sex with them. After she sobers up she says it was the alcohol that made her behave that way, but does not deny having feelings for sex, although she wants it to be with me (approval). I have installed a digital recorder in her car and caught at least one conversation that seemed suspicious. For now I am keeping a journal and replacing batteries in the recorder. There are 5 numbers that I see consistently on the cell phone bill but cannot find the names attached to them. Anyone else have similar experiences? When asked why she is even thinking about this she says "it's not about love" it's just sex.:(
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try reverse lookup on anywho.com
me BW- 29
WH- 29
2kids- 2&5
married 10 years
"Love is the gift of self. It means emptying oneslf to reach out to others. In a certain sense, it means forgettung oneself for the good of others."
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Hi, thanks for responding. I've tried it but no results. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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www.ussearch.com$15 will get you info on a cell phone. Good luck.
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Can you go to a payphone, or block your number and CALL those numbers?
That's how I found out OW's number off of my H's cell phone. Called it and got her voice mail, thenknew exactly who she was.
I'd say call the numbers. If someone answers, you can always pretend to be a wrong number.
WH's A: 1/18/06 - ???? D-Days: 3/28, 4/14 (false recovery), 9/5
8/11 -- WH announces that he doesn't love me anymore.
9/5, confirmed A was renewed, PBL & re-exposure which gets him investigated. He refuses to move out and gets blatant with the A.
10/15, “Plan F-U”. Yuck. But it did start some talking.
C w/OW continued until ....?
MC with SH
11/24, WH says he loves me.
Making progress. My own and with us.
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You can also hit *67 before dialing the number. This blocks your number from appearing on the other end.
This is how I got info on who I was calling. I asked for Joe Baloney and then he told me I had the wrong number. I said oh well I am with xyz company and we are giving away a xyz. Who am I speaking with. The idiot told me. LOL Make sure you practice a little. If you sound convincing enough you can even get an address out of them to mail the prize to.
BS 38 FWW 35 D Day 10/03 Recovery started 11/06 3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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U - you out there? What's up??
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^^^^BUMP^^^^ Ulysees, can you please give us some ore details? I'm sure some of the Ol' timers around here can give you some ideas on how to straighten your situation out?
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge. Thomas Carlyle
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Hi everyone~~
Someone here mentioned dialing *67 to block your number. I did that with my bf for a while and it was annoying him. (Which is why I did it in the first place.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> ) He actually talked to his cell phone company and they told him they don't keep numbers private anymore. So basicly if you call someone from a blocked phone number it will show up on their bill. I looked on his recent cell phone bill and <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />--my number showed up. He has Cingular so if you're planning on calling from your phone and blocking the number it might not be a good idea. Get a $20 Trac phone, buy some minutes and call them that way.
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