am working on call at hospital and this is a vent...warning!

Ok...I am having to go to work tomorrow and ds is staying during day with darth.

suddenly, now after FOUR YEARS OF NO CHURCH ATTENDANCE, he and the wistress wifey, have placed her child (from previous bf, never married) and MY child in a vacation bible school...which I am NOT opposed to...however it is NOT THE DENOMINATION I AM A MEMBER OF...but God is God..faith is faith...but it will be a different story if they start pushing the dogma that is that of the xh's family at him...which I wouldn't like as it's imho ENABLED the FIL (former deacon and serial cheater grandfather) and father to continue going on in their lives as if nothing happened.

So what's with the "found God" part?

I am sorry. I don't believe it for one nanosecond. I think it's probably b/c it's the "p.c." thing to do in the small lake community where they now live...a "fitting in" kinda thing..to make people THINK THEY ARE A DECENT MARRIED COUPLE...WHICH THEY MOST CERTAINLY ARE NOT...they are DYSFUNCTION JUNCTION...multiple affairs and multiple cheating...even his wifey left on a boat during a d day at the bahamas last summer in which I think she had an affair of her own...so they're anything but steady church members.

I am sick of this revisionist history stuff.

I have had it up to my neck.

It makes me want to hurl.

HOW DARE INFIDELS PRETEND THEY ARE FAITH FILLED! HOW DARE THEY! HE HAS NEVER REPENTED NOR TURNED FROM HIS WS/EVIL WAYS...NOT EVER..NOT ONCE..NEVER AN APOLOGY OR A MOMENT OF SINCERE SADNESS..well maybe one or two, but NO REAL REPENTANCE.

so what is with this? Why do infidels think they have to suddenly go to church after an affair marriage? what is this about?

I am sorry about this folks. but it's not real. It's totally fake and I dislike it.

I call a spade a spade when I see it.

Why do people forget their lives? forget their faith? when I met darth, we went to church together. he prayed with me. he held his arm behind the pew when we'd attend every sunday. we had good friends we were in sunday school with. we had many people over for sunday school socials. he played on the church softball league. he was darn good too! he was EVEN NOMINATED FOR DEACON...but had to decline as he was divorced...even to our pastor, repented and was openly sorry to his xw..which he never discussed the specifics of to me as I never knew her and it was over and she was in another state several hundred miles away when I even met him...

he was a different man then.

in the last four years, he has not gone to church. not once. he refused to sit for one last time with a church psychologist and counselor b/c he was never going to admit his affairs and his behavior was not only sinful but morally wrong even away from the eyes of his faith..just plain wrong.

I received the call today when my son and I were playing up at the lake. He sounded ASHAMED TO TELL ME DS WAS GOING TO CHURCH...as I told him, "darth I am glad he's going to church..are you going to reinforce its principles in your home now?" he was silent. I asked him if he knew that I am NO LONGER NOR HAVE BEEN FOR FOUR YEARS A MEMBER OF MY FORMER DENOMINATION AND THAT OUR DS HAS NOT ATTENDED THAT DENOMINATION EITHER. I asked if he was ok with that as I AM RAISING MY SON IN MY CHURCH HOME. He was silent. He said it would be "fun" and that he'd see all the other "neighbors kids"..and that's what it was about...fitting in with the "joneses"...

what if the joneses found out that the Vader clan was a mish mash of infidelity, partying, sexual immorality, and hedonism of a level they'd never fathom? what if mr. and mrs. jones knew they were making friends with people like that...a man who can toss aside ten years of his life for a whim or two..who got caught between a rock and a hardplace when he got lackadasical with one of his mistresses and the conniving little ho she is, deliberately trapped a married man into pregnancy and divorce and marriage?

I am sick of the revision of history.

I am sick they are playing happy family...which they are NOT! it makes me want to hurl.

I just want to see some repentance. One ounce and I shall recant ALL THE CRAP I JUST SPEWED HERE...I promise I will.

but it's all for show.

geez they make me sick.

i been surfin these posts latley and you seem to be venting alot and genuinly angry about alot of different subjects....

i hope its just not alot of mis-directed anger towards your X....just kinda seems like evrything centers around him or what hes doing....

i hope youre OK, anger takes WAY too much energy.

I agree with Sturgis.

I like your a lot, however, you seem to be on the edge lately. Can we help you with anything?

Peachy - I have to agree with the others. You seem incredibly angry about your exH. However, you have the blessing of a potentially wonderful new man in your life who sounds like he cares about you a great deal.

You mentioned somewhere you'd been visiting the TOW? site. I have no idea what site this is but I was thinking surely it's enough to cope trying to keep up with MB. How much marriage/ infidelity does a person need to read?

As for what the 'Jones's' might think of your ex? Well, their history might not be untarnished either. Most people don't judge history unless it has affected them. They will judge your ex by his actions now. That is what they see.

Peachy, you are facing a whole different future than the one you imagined but, you never know, it might just be better. With your looks and your intelligence - guess who'll be jealous when he finally loses his grip??? Take care. TT

Yes, she may be angry, folks, but it's hers and it's a step she's got to go through. She lost her h to another woman and she's pi$$ed. Having said that...

What I have found as a common denominator in WSs is a crisis of faith. Stop going to church, stop believing in God, stop... well, you get the point. I think your XH has a void in him and guess what, OW ain't fillin' it. Is he now suddenly looking to God to fill this void? Is it the PC thing to do? Is it so he can say he's taking the kids to church when he goes to family court? Who knows.

But on a fundamental level, WSs have this crisis of faith.

As far as VBS goes, denomination typically isn't an issue BECAUSE (at least in my community here in the bible belt) Several churches, be it Baptist, Methodist, Lutheran, Episcopal, they get together and have VBS at one church to combine resources etc. and it's a very generic Bible Study for the kids. Try not to lose too much sleep over that one.

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