More of my never ending drama. I called the OW"S hubby last night and informed him of all the new happenings (and some old ones that he wasn't aware of). He was so cool, calm and collected that it made me nuts. I asked him how he can turn his head and just pretend none of this is happening. His reply "she's worth it". What the heck does that mean?? His wife is having an affair with a married man, both have kids, they blatantly flaunt the affair in front of the kids and her hubby. What is this man thinking? Why would any respectable person just accept this and say she's is worth it??

In case it slipped past any one, yes I am angry. I couldn't believe the calm with which this man talked about his wife sleeping with my soon to be ex-hubby.

Someone explain to me how you deal that way because I don't even begin to understand.

All I can think of is that this sounds like a man with no self-respect.

It sounds as thought that reply is heavy with meaning IASL.

It sounds as though such behaviour has been commonplace and OWH has weighed up the hurt versus the benefits he perceives in OWs wifedom.

Some people will settle for crumbs, and we can't condemn them for that.

But we CAN look to them as negative examples and spurs for us to continue to behave bravely and with dignity in the face of infidelity.

TreadingLightly, I agree, this man must have no self-respect.

b0b, yeah and how sad that he sees it as a prize he's holding onto.

Seems I've stirred up quite a can of worms. My soon to be ex called me this morning and I promptly told him I had noting to say. He continued on with how upset OW and her H are and afraid I will expose to their children. I hung up on him. He called back and made more threats and I hung up again. Then OW called but I was on my way out the door. While I was gone, approximately 45 mins, my STBX left 4 mesages for me to call him. Of course I didn't he then spoke to my daughter and asked to speak to me. I took the phone and he said "OW is trying to get a hold of you" and I replied "so what, tell her to save her energy" He then said "she's trying to protect her children" and I said "I didn't see any of you worrying about protecting MY children" and then in his fogged out reasoning he said "they are my children too". Hmm ok like that gives him the right to hurt them, ok then. He asked what I want from him and said "do you want to end up hating each other?" I replied "I'm already there" and I hung the phone up.

People should consider how these things will affect the others in their lives, but they never do. I have no intention and no desire to hurt her kids. And besides it appears to me that she is the one who set them up to be hurt, not me.