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bigkahuna #1697018 01/01/07 06:27 PM
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Then why isn't Todd here?...he should know we're all worried about him and at least grace us with a post to let us know he's OK. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

luna-I'm glad to see you're holding up OK. It sounds like you had a wonderful time with your friends!

2much-I am currently confused about Plan A and the 180's and what exactly I need to be doing. WH seems to be coming around more, so I'm thankful for that. We had to go to a wedding Saturday night and we started talking about our own wedding, which was beautiful...he may have gotten a clue. He told me that night, in passing, that he was still in love with me and he's sorry he's been such an idiot lately (a lot of arguing going on this past week). He's been much better since then though.

I had to go into work for an hour or so today and he even told me that he didn't want me to go!! I haven't heard anything like that from him in MONTHS.

I told him this morning that as soon as OW left, I wanted him to come and tell me and we were going to go get him a new cell phone and a new number. He said OK, no argument or anything. I did tell him he didn't have a choice though!

How are you holding up?

I haven't updated my thread in a couple of days, so I don't think you're missing too much. Thanks for asking though!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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bigkahuna #1697019 01/01/07 07:05 PM
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Folks, I apologize for not posting. My WW has discovered my MB presence and posts. I feel very weird posting here under those circumstances. Yes, most of my posts are fun oriented, but I have always considered this site to be my safe haven. Unfortunately, MB/TKO is no longer. I had thought about asking the mods to change my screen name but I post almost exclusively on TKO so it would not take much for her to recognize me.

I am not sure what to do about it except stop posting here.

ToddAC #1697020 01/01/07 07:07 PM
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Can you change your screen name and have one of us create a sub-TKO thread?


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stph20 #1697021 01/01/07 07:12 PM
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Well, keep in mind that anything that anyone writes on this thread will be read by her, so I am not sure how to go about it. Sometimes MB seems really big but if you think about it, there are only a handful of infidelity forums. And assuming another thread is created to replace TKO, it would be very popular which would keep the new tko near the top and easily detectable.

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I'm at a loss Todd...how did she find out who you were?

I let BigK in on what's going on...hopefully he'll be along soon and can help.

I would hate to see you go...we need you as much as you need us. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


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stph20 #1697023 01/01/07 07:20 PM
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stph,

I'm glad to hear that things are going a little better. My WW and I have had a pretty good holiday break as well. No SF, but I did get a kiss on New Years Eve. I noticed you have added to your signature that you live on the East Side. Did you do anythings special for NYE? My WW and I partied along Washington Avenue with a friend of mine. Have you been down there? It is a pretty cool stretch of a few blocks with a lot of night life. Downtown St. Charles is pretty cool too. I prefer Washington Avenue, but I only have to walk 3 blocks to get to the bars in downtown St. Chuck. Here's to a new year with new hope.


Jim

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No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
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stph20 #1697024 01/01/07 07:28 PM
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stph, I do not know. She is computer savy but not that much into the internet. I assume it had to be one of her two best friends. Both are very savy with the web. Her best friend is extremely intelligent and very logical/analytical in her approach. Think about it: if you were looking for someone on MB, you go to Infidelity and there are five categories I believe. Look at the number of threads and posts and it will quickly show that GQII is where the action is. She has been BF with my wife for a long time so she knows the whole story. It would take time but after a while, you just keep narrowing it down.

jmwc95 #1697025 01/01/07 07:39 PM
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stph,

I'm glad to hear that things are going a little better. My WW and I have had a pretty good holiday break as well. No SF, but I did get a kiss on New Years Eve. I noticed you have added to your signature that you live on the East Side. Did you do anythings special for NYE? My WW and I partied along Washington Avenue with a friend of mine. Have you been down there? It is a pretty cool stretch of a few blocks with a lot of night life. Downtown St. Charles is pretty cool too. I prefer Washington Avenue, but I only have to walk 3 blocks to get to the bars in downtown St. Chuck. Here's to a new year with new hope.

Hi Jim

Thanks for checking on me...WH and I stayed home on NYE. We kissed at midnight and went to bed!! I don't like being out on NYE...too many drunks out. I live in Belleville...which part of St. Louis are you? To be honest, St. Louis, as well as other big cities freak me out, so I don't go much. I really need to get out more!

I'm just now starting to read your thread (forgive me!!). I hope to finish it tonight so I know what's going on with you!


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Well, considering I said that I only needed to walk 3 blocks to get to downtown St. Charles, I probably don't live to far from there.

My WW works with a girl from Belleville, and she recently went to her wedding. She is about your age. I was wondering if you might know her. Shoot, I can't think of her last name or her husbands name. Her name is Julie and I think her husband's name is...maybe, Jeff. He has a funny last name. They are HUGE Cardinals fans and had a lot of Cards stuff at the reception. I think the wedding was on 11/4. I'll talk to my WW and find out what their last name is.


Jim

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NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
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I remember now, it is Julie and Kris Ninnus (sp?). The only reason I didn't go to the wedding was because I had just recently exposed and my WW didn't want to be around me at all. Julie has met me and she knows OM because they all used to work together.


Jim

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No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
Status - In Recovery
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Well, considering I said that I only needed to walk 3 blocks to get to downtown St. Charles, I probably don't live to far from there.

Missed this in your post.

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My WW works with a girl from Belleville, and she recently went to her wedding. She is about your age. I was wondering if you might know her. Shoot, I can't think of her last name or her husbands name. Her name is Julie and I think her husband's name is...maybe, Jeff. He has a funny last name. They are HUGE Cardinals fans and had a lot of Cards stuff at the reception. I think the wedding was on 11/4. I'll talk to my WW and find out what their last name is.

Don't know these people.


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Hi 2much,

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I think I am going to start giving him a dose of his own poop and start complaining to him about how hard it is to be a deserted wife and how I can't wait to relocate so that things will be easier for me and the kids etc. LOL...I have the power!!!


Orchid would be proud of you!

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thing is they lie so much we have no idea what kind of concocted stories they have fed the rest of the world to feel sorry for them and accept thier wayward circumstances.


..as long as they are wayward....you can bet on that!

...but it sounds like you have got a good attitude going there....keep it up!


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My WW has discovered my MB presence and posts.


Todd....it may not be such a bad thing...LOL....is there anything you would like to tell your WW?

An idea to consider, even if temporary....is to start off a group email...you already have a few on hand....where send/reply is continual to a group....


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My WW has discovered my MB presence and posts.


Todd....it may not be such a bad thing...LOL....is there anything you would like to tell your WW?

An idea to consider, even if temporary....is to start off a group email...you already have a few on hand....where send/reply is continual to a group....

That's a good idea Luna! Like IMing each other...


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stph20 #1697032 01/03/07 03:29 AM
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IM'ing is very bad Steph. You could end up in an EA

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bigkahuna #1697033 01/03/07 04:59 PM
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WOW,

What has become of the TKO fam??? Are the threadmaster's plan B'ing us? Is it a dissolution of TKO??? Am I talking to myself???

Talk about a dark plan B...hhhmmmmm

Well, I was just looking for a little diversion from reality and thought perhaps I could elicit a response from the wayward TKO'ers who must be getting their ENs met somewhere else <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Check back later to see if this corpse has any life left or if rigor mortis has set in <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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Hi 2much,

I don't know what to think about TKO land. It's like winter at the amusement park.

Guess we'll have to look on the positive side. There's a lot less catching up to do these days...


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Guess we'll have to look on the positive side. There's a lot less catching up to do these days...

Good point nams!

I miss our old gang as well.

Plan B sucks.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


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IM'ing is very bad Steph. You could end up in an EA

ROTFLMAOPMP

You're funny BigK.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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I sure hope Pio and Todd will be back


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