WH has an excellent attorney - probably the best of the best in our area..Knows how to play the game and plays to the fullest...

So - after 2nd appt. with attorney - WH comes home and asks me for the name of a therapist. Which I give him, but he never followed up.

He again saw his attorney and within 1 week again asked me for the name of a therapist.

WH knew that 3 years ago when I caught him cheating I started going to a therapist. Stopped as she really wasn't getting me where I needed to be. So, last fall I found a new therapist and went for probably 6 months. Therapist recently told me that I'm fine and until things get crazy, D papers filed or I move out that I don't need to come in anymore..

I just wonder if WH attorney is playing a game here, that WH is a perfect husband and that he's going to theraphy etc. to make himself look good in court. Our D will get very dirty - it will be the war of the roses....

I just think it's odd, really odd....

Thanks

My first atty said in our initial meeting that she's not a counselor and if you want a shoulder to cry on - get one.
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Maybe your H's attorney referred him to a therapist because s/he knew your HUSBAND was going to look bad! H was the one who had an affair. You were the one who went for counseling, not him. H was the one who stepped out of line.

So, he starts going for counseling now. Well, what did he do to try and improve himself in the past 3 years? Do you think that the court won't notice the gap between the affair and going to counseling?

Also, if it were to come up I might bring up the fact that you were the one who looked for a therapist for him! If he is so motivated for change he should be taking the initiative himself.

Just my $.02

Heartmending - That's my exact thoughts - he's gonna look bad for his many A's...Though, I don't have hard evidence and I doubt that I can file a fault D and WH knows that.

I think it's the old game of CYA..

Also, well over a year ago when we had a domestic violence issue and the police came - he said that if we agreed to counciling (pointing finger at WH) he would not file the papers with the courts. WH agreed to counciling...yet, never went...

I think that's why WH attorney may be the one pushing him to do this. It's been about 4 months between his A appts. His attorney is probably ticked that he's done nothing - but, hope I fall off the face of the earth...


When WH was first caught he told me he neeed "help" he needed to "talk to someone" - so I found a therapist for him. I made the appt. the day of the appt. he said was sick and couldn't go. So, I went in his place rather than cancel. Made another appt. for him - when that day came - he just flat out refused - saying he was fine and didn't need theraphy. I cancelled rather than fill in for him again.....

I just hope if he does go that for once in his life he's honest about his serial cheating ways - but, that's highly doubtful. He'll go and blame me for everything wrong in his life....That's why we can't work this out - It's all MY fault and I'm the one that damaged a few of his OW's marriages...Arrogance and Entitlement are strong

HUGS

Perhaps, WH told his attorney you had seen a therapist and the attorney asked who so they could try and use it against you....He could have told your WH to ask you in the way he did so it wouldn't raise suspicion....Just a thought.

Regards,

BB

Are there any children/child custody issues involved? If not, who would give a rat's butt about whether or not you went to therapy? Besides you were in therapy because of dealing with your H's behaviors!

Are you in a state where there has to be grounds for a divorce...as opposed to "no fault"?

Heartmending - No kids...But, we do have alot financially/business that is at stake.

My attorney said we would file no-fault, though, my state still will with enough evidence etc. allow a fault divorce too.

Really, I don't see any other reason why he'd want to start IC. Unless, current OW caught him cheating on her and she's pushing him or since he STILL hasn't left me maybe she feels IC will help him get off the flippin fence...

Who knows...?????