where is my friend dukhunter???
hope you are busy with a nice lady you have met...

jump in here and let us know how you are!!!!
that is an order!
mlhb

Hi Snob!

I am alive and very well thank you! I've been quite the busy boy lately. I went fishing and camping for a week on the Deschutes and Metolius rivers in Oregon. Eight old friends that go every year for the last 12-14 years. The ultimate boys night out. Then to San Francisco for three Giants games in three days. And finally I just got back from five days of chaufering Mom, Dad and an 89yr old cousin all over central and southern Washington state for five days at a family reunion.

Plus I have been staying away from home to avoid a date gone bad(ie. STALKER CHICK!). Two dates and she wants to move in! No way Jose!

Whats up with the venting? I thought you were doing great and boom- vent central! Who cares what the moron has or is getting. You have no idea what it is costing him emotionally or monitarily do you? So why worry about his junky butt? Go back to being the free spirited and happy person I'm used to talking to.

Hows the MB romance going? Or are you not talking in fear of jinxing it? Details baby, details. Everyone loves to hear sucess stories, it gives the rest of us relationship retards a glimmer of hope to hear someone else's good stories.

yeah dukhnter! you are still around!
thanks for the vote of confidence.. i was just having a bad day and needing to vent.. even we snobs must do that once in a while...

no dirt to dish just yet duk... taking this friendship with gekko one day at a time.. we shall see what happens. no body is throwing any rings around yet! lol

so, a stalker huh? and we didn't hear about this because....? we must hear stalker story... must!
poor duk... see, i'd want to move in after one date but that's just me.. hahahahahahahahaha not!

we want to hear about all your adventures duk so start spillin... we are all ears..........
oh yea, well, everyone else but me is anyway..
i do believe hard of hearing came up in an old post from you... lol
good to hear from ya!
mlhb

So do you want the braile version or can you still see well enough to read? I know the hearing is gone, all teachers are selectively deaf. I might go that route myself if I had to listen to a room full of kids these days.

I will dish only on the condition that you give "quid pro quo" on your own relationship. I will go first as a sign of good faith even. Besides, you'd just tell me you would and then clam up anyway!

So it all starts with my cleaning lady. A hottie in her own right. She thinks I would be a "catch" lol. She set me up with this gal and we went out for dinner with the cleaning lady and several other gals. Nothing big, just dinner and drinks. Second time we go out same deal only I'm the designated driver for their girls night out. Well they all get drunk and dance all night and I even danced(duks don't dance well). About 3am my date gets a phone call that her husband just ODed and died. Imagine my surprise! One- she's still married and two he's a druggie. Where's the door hon? I ended up driving everyone home except her she slept on my couch. She didn't want to be alone. Not that she slept, she made phone calls and cried the rest of the night.

Well to make a long story short I helped her get flights and all to go to the funeral two states away(seperated two years)and generally said see you later. She comes back from the funeral walks in my door, goes straight to my bedroom and I made a big mistake! Never going to happen that way again! Typical male thought coming from the wrong head! From there it's been a game of talking nice but avoiding her presence at all costs. She text messages me, calls, drives by looking for me etc. Not appealing in any way. She's now down to telling me she is moving in the hopes I will soften and agree to see her. Not going to happen.

Okay that's my story and I'm sticking to it. What's up with you? How much more school do you have left? When's the wedding?

i have to go tanning (high maintenance stuff) then go to work there duk... i will respond later with as few details as possible from me and a HUGE 2x4 for you!!!!! wtf? lol

maybe you better go back into hiding! lol
mlhb

Okay I know I deserve the 2x! Everything was fine until she wanted to spend all of her time at my house. Heck I barely knew her. The next night she was still there when I came home from work and she wanted to stay again, I said no. We had a long talk about grieving and told her I thought we had made a mistake and she agreed. When it came time she didn't want to leave and I had to tell her to go home and heal in her own way.

My bad I know. I'm a raw rookie and made a bad decision. My only defense, and it's weak, is that since I met the ex at 17 in HS she was the only relationship I have ever had. Learning at 46 is not what I had ever envisioned for myself and I hope this is the only big lump I take in the process. Go ahead and hit me with all the lumps you think I need, I deserve them. I knew better.

Hey, we all make mistakes. Go get tested & feel lucky if you didn't catch anything. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

The learning at 46...kinda weak... but you know that.

It's hard when the body wants something & you're lonely & you miss physical contact. But you know that too.

Sorry to threadjack, but this is AMAZING to me. 1--that your housekeeper would set you up with a married lady and 2--that your date's "friends" would allow her to be alone after what had just happened. HELLO?!


Mrs. W8ing

ok duk, i cannot bash you too hard. i think a lot of us have made the mistake you have. i won't talk about anyone else but me, but i know i did too... last year. with a good friend, and luckily we are still friends, but it never should have happened. we all get in that vulnerable weak spot. as long as we DON'T make a habit of it! once can be forgiven there duk..

as far as me... i am not spillin much duk! not much to spill. gekko and i just hit it off really well on here and decided to email, then decided to talk on the phone, and, starting out as friends, get to know eachother. we share a lot of the same interests, goals, etc... but neither one are in a huge hurry to jump into anything. we are both legally separated and trying to get our divorces finalized. (i personally have no problem with people who are legally separated dating. it all depends on where you are at and if you are ready to date. that is just me.) so duk, just talking and laughing and getting to know eachother. we have not even met in person yet as there is some distance involved and we want to be really ready before we meet in person. men in my parts, good quality men, are non-existant, and he feels women in his area, ones that fit his bill, are few and far between too...

so, that's that duk... no wedding, are you on crack man?! lol

and you better not have anyone set you up anymore, namely your cleaning lady! geez! i don't want to hear anymore stories like the one you posted out of you mister, got it!

mlhb

oh yea, a side note to everyone here... the mb photo thread is up again in the general area.... anyone who has not posted a pik make haste and do it! i wanna know who i am posting with ... i am having mine posted... you all can be brave too if you have not done so all ready... come on....

sure duk... i respond to you and answer your questions and you go into hiding... i see how you are!

mlhb

Threadjack- dukhunter, you mentioned washington- do you live here, too?

cm

Hey Snobby and Crabby!

I am not in hiding, Ive been drinking heavily! See what you did to me! One comment and I'm off the wagon again(this week). No, really I have been out the last two nights and busy at work. Sorry to keep you in suspense!

Last night a good friend and I went to the local Wine Shop and hit the Thursday night wine tasting. Lots of friends and lots of single females that are in the right age bracket. Of course he has them falling all over him and I'm left to provide comic relief. The typical night out for me. Tonight though I had a great time with a gal I have been seeing since Christmas. Just friends out having fun. Definitely someone I could get serious about but she is way smarter than I ever hope to be. She keeps it light and fun and leaves if it looks too serious. Smart gal and a pleasure to be with. Her only weakness is golf. She's terrible but wants to learn. She gets mad at me because I make it look easy. 35yrs of practice helps a bunch.

We go to the driving range and I help her as much as I can until we get to laughing so hard nothing good gets done. She says the only reason she has trouble is that she has two obstacles to overcome that I don't. The beer does not help either!

Hi CM,

No I live in Nevada. Biggest Little City- Reno. The family reunion was up in Wenatchee and the metropolis of Goldendale!!! What an eye opener. Coming from Reno and 24hr bars and going to no bars and good luck finding a beer in Goldendale is quite an eye opener!

Sometimes I wonder if living in a bigger metro area would provide more (& better) dating opportunities. I live in a family oriented town, lovely place to bring up kids, just not gazillions of single men.

Providence, R.I., Hartford, CT & New Haven, Ct aren't all that far & men from those areas do post on the various single sites. So far they are no more or less in number or compatable than the more local guys.

Tell you what duk, a wine tasting with with a couple of guys, one being the comic relief, sounds pretty good. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'm with you nams! Sounds like an entertaining night to me too!
Sounds like a good time duk!

K.

"snobby and crabby" huh?
you catch on quick duk....
it's like you've known me forever... lol

sorry to disrupt your 2 day drinking spree... please, carry on....

mlhb

Yeah, only Reno is too far for me.

One person suggested hanging out in a golf club, plenty of men. I suppose if I actually played or had an interest in golf beyond walking the pretty golf course, I'd consider it. But, gawd, just hang out there in the hopes of meeting someone? I'd feel like I had a big ol sticker on my head that said man hunting.

Yeah, I have this hangup with drinking and driving.
A 2 drink rule if I'm driving. So, Nevada would be a stretch for me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I'm in Ellensburg, about 2/3 between the two- you would have driven through it if you went straight from Goldendale to wenatchee. Yes, beer can be hard to find. Most people think Washington in really liberal, but that's pretty much only on the west coast. Us dryland folks are pretty conxervative, adn many town don't sell beer on the Sabbath.

That's why I stock up well on Friday night!!

cm

Jeesh mlhb!

Did I say something wrong? It's not like I got totally polluted or something. I don't take chances when it comes to drinking and driving. I just went down to the tasting and three of us split a bottle of good Zin and then went to dinner. My friend has it all, good looks and great personality and his family owns the biggest plumbing contracting company in town. Money and looks when in combination with a truly nice guy makes women get silly around him. Being comical is easy when you see what goes on.

And last night was a pairing party for a golf tourney I played in today. Free booze all night, a live band, and food to boot. My gal friend and I stayed until it got too loud to talk and then went to a restaurant with a view of the lightning storm last night and talked for a couple of hours. I've never had a gal for a friend before and I am enjoying her company and her honesty. She's been thru infidelity twice with SO's herself and is very hesitant to let our friendship go any farther.

Hi Karona!

You don't have to drink to have fun. Two or three beers and I was done last night. I don't drink when I play golf at all. I like to play well when I get to play these days. How's the shopping cart thing working? The grocery store is the most pleasant place in town right now. 102 outside and 65 in there! Still no luck for me there no matter how poorly I navigate the aisles.

CM,

Yes we went thru Ellensburg both ways. The classic cars were all over the road for some event. Driving my 74 yr old father all over the state for five days made me crave a good drink every night. In Goldendale the only place to drink after 6:00 pm seemed to be a mexican restaurant. Sitting down in a booth to drink by myself didn't appeal to me so I just went without. You live in a truly beautiful place albiet lacking in entertainment.