MB has taught me to be forthright. To stand up for myself. To do the right things, even if they aren't the comfortable things that make me feel warm and fuzzy. And to NOT ACCEPT crumbs from somebody I have a relationship with...

That being said, I officially announce that I am once again the very single girl. Sad. I found out tonight the guy I'd been seeing actually went out with his former girlfriend. We had been very very close to a committment, and had been by most accounts by his family and friends, just about there...and had had serious discussions...issues regarding relocation, etc. But now I find the biggest issue I have are sins of omission. He simply "forgot" to tell me that he'd gone out with her.

I have had a few instances over the last 2 weeks where he promised to call me and never called back...where he also suddenly went unaccounted for one whole night...when he was supposed to call me at our usual time. We also were supposed to see each other this weekend...but I ended up getting my son and he was acting wierdly. Just nervous sounding...and having been a former in another lifetime ago when I was married, a BS, I can totally see through when somebody is being less than truthful with me. So I shot him an email today saying that his recent behavior has made no sense to me and that maybe we shouldn't see each other if his priorities have shifted away from us...we had been VERY VERY CLOSE to a serious committment.

He called me back after work immediately after reading the email. He was caught off guard, and just accidentally blurted out, "well peach, I am so sorry. I have something I should have said. I went out with C. You were right. I still care for you but I have some unresolved feelings for the xgf. But still more for you."

I don't accept that. And while we aren't in a committment officially, it was damning enough to me to end it tonight with him, with dignity and calmness.

I am only teary right now. Thought for sure he was it. He may still be. But the dust will have to settle and time will have to pass. As I said tonight, one of my favorite quotes was from Princess diana..in fact, it's below. I said it to him gracefully tonight as I said that I do not compete with any other women, that I shall never do so, and that since he did not tell me he did this, that I feel nothing else but to bow out gracefully...as three is a crowd. My stomach is totally lurching.

It's in these moments I feel like exclaiming to the world "I will NEVER FALL IN LOVE AGAIN!"...never! Or some dramatic line from gone with the wind or something.

I told him that if and when he is able to see his life more clearly, and if he is able to place my son and I in that spot of high priority (aka committment), that he can call me and we can talk...unless I am no longer a single girl at that time or place in my life as I am moving on.

He was shocked. He couldn't believe I said that to him. I told him that it was ok. That I needed to have only known this earlier, as I passed up a few offers for dates this week. He was shocked again to hear that.

I told him since obviously he has gone out with somebody and neglected to inform me about that, that I need to take some time away from this and search myself and see what it is I want to do. And that most likely, I would see others. I told him it is not acceptable to simply after the fact tell somebody you've been seeing for several months that you've gone out with your xgf (who lived w/him for 2 mos). That it's just not right.

When I told him that I would no longer phone him or try to contact him, he was also shocked. I again repeated my princess diana quote at him.

Why did he go out with this girl? A girl who from all of his accounts had a questionable reputation? Somebody who was untrustworthy and cheated on him? His answer: well you live so far away... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> She's horrid! She is and has been living with another guy, very very manipulative, a drama queen, can't do things for herself, and has pursued him relentlessly the last month since she found out he was dating me from others at his firm. She also works there. So much for the darn workplace relationships huh? She also happens to have been engaged to ANOTHER GUY as of two months ago and was living with him. WHY DO PEOPLE WANT TO BE AROUND SERIAL LIARS AND CHEATERS LIKE THIS WOMAN? WHY WHY WHY? SHE IS SOMEBODY'S FORMER WS AND IS AGAIN A WS WAITING TO HAPPEN. Doesn't know what it's like to ever be faithful to anybody. And here is my nice, stable, intelligent and successful guy I am dating...whom SHE CHEATED ON last year, and when she sees him being happy and dating somebody else...she pursues him. I hate this stuff. I am NOT GONNA BE INVOLVED. Done. Finito. Arrividerci.

I did NOT tear up at all. Was very composed and ladylike. I said to him, "well if and when you realize that distance is simply something that in a good relationship is just one small thing to overcome, and that a relationship based on honesty, love and truth is important, then you can contact me."

He then went on to ask me information about "who is a great doc back home?" as his mom broke her arm...and he asked me to email him and call him with info on that (my bro in law is a surgeon also and he knows him) tomorrow. he tried like heck to try to get me to break my boundaries by saying I'd talk to him or converse with him about it. I agreed to simply send him a one paragraph email tomorrow with the contact info on it. I said that was all the contact I will provide, as I love his mom alot and she knows me well.

I refuse to ever be strung along. Not ever again.

You see, when you SURVIVE an ordeal as I had done with my lying cheating cheater of an xh, you simply do not accept nor do you choose to accept anything less than your boundaries/expectations. I have recently turned down several dates b/c of the direction things were headed. Tonight, J actually said to me "well I do have some unresolved feelings for her, but I certainly know how I feel for you". BLEECH!

My response? "Well J, I am saddened by this decision of yours. I can't offer any advice to you on this, except my favorite other quote...Einstein's "definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting the outcome to be different." I told him that he'd have to alone without my input or help in this matter decide what was right for him...and that if and when he decides he is finally done with this drama queen, then he can phone me then or shoot me an email as I am never going to revisit any relationship with a drama involving a third person...even if it is only in dating. That I am happy and alone now. That I am happy with him, and I am happy without him. That if and when he realizes his choice was poor, then he can contact me, and hopefully for his sake I might still be single.

I made him no promises whatsoever. He kept trying to get me and bait me into continued contact. I told him I hoped that he didn't think me mean or cruel, but that to save MY feelings I felt it best that I disconnect from him and end this. He then said, "well I will definitely call you and tell you what I am doing. I will let you know what I am thinking and what I decide to do about us. I did not know or think this could happen. I feel horrible and guilty. I suddenly am worried you won't even be available when I do realize all of this."

I said "no I don't want to hear it." I said only contact me if and when you feel your choices are different and potentially permanent for us...for I am moving on with or without him...and that for now, it's without him.

He apologized and sounded really sad. He isn't an outright liar...he is not a bad person. This is as close to cheating as he's ever done. Never did it when we dated for three years. Never came close. And yea, this woman is a ho and a predator. And I realize that I am not in that city. That I am not there for him all the time. But that also he has not been recently there for ME either.

I am very very sad. Disillusioned. This was supposed to be it. He even said that "I thought this would end out differently for us. I never thought Peach you'd do this. I don't know what to say." My entire family thought differently. HIs family thought differently. And he goes out and does this.

I am crushed again.

However, I have the greatest blessing in the world. I have my son. I am happy BEING THE MOM OF MY SON. I am happy being a family of two. I no longer need anybody to complete myself and when things aren't right if I am dating (althought this was what I believed to have been the one), then I have enough self respect and courage to NOT accept it. The last 3 years have taught me to learn how to be happy and alone and happy with somebody else potentially.

I'm just crushed.

But I'll survive.

Again, a healthy and loving family of two (me and little fella) is all I need. I feel sad because I let my guard down finally after darth. I let my heart open up. I for one moment in time, donned rose colored glasses.

Why is this so hard? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

sadly i want to add...this girl he went out with...xgf..has a child from some other guy...was at one time a bi. yea a bi. and has used her child since their first dates to try to bait him into marriage.

I am sickened by this. repulsed and sickened.

she is six years younger than me, but looks ten years older than me.

i am just so sad.

Peachy - Stand your ground. Next time he calls, let him know that you need much more than it seems he is prepared to give.

Meanwhile, start looking around for someone else to date. It is alright to grieve, but not more than a few hours. You are too good a woman to waste much time.

Lots of hugs to you. I know this hurts. My MB radar did pick up on a few things and yours probably did as well.



There's a serious air of familiarity in this little speech, isn't there? Particularly the part about him worrying that you won't wait around and scurry back to him when pulls his head out of his nether regions.



He never thought YOU would do this? Again, something sounds familiar.

Big congratulations to you for setting firm boundaries and refusing to get sucked into the drama.

First of all, I'm sorry for your pain. Loss is loss even if we know it's for the better in the long run.

Secondly, Congratulations on your growth, courage and wisdom! Sounds like you didn't even need a red flag to pop up when you spotted this one. "Pink" was enough.



He never thought YOU would do this?? What?? Stand up for yourself? Not take any less than first place in a relationship of several months. Hang in until he made up his mind about his ex-gf? After hearing your description of his ex-gf, I'd be scared to think he's even attracted to such a person!

I could never figure that out about my exWS. Other than being 25 years younger than him ( <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />), his OW is self-centered,throws screaming tantrums, manipulates the heck out of others, is a poor parent, lazy, not very intelligent, and dresses like a ****** according to others. (Has gained a lot of weight and still wears those low hanging jeans and high reaching tops...with her gut hanging out.) She also got pregnant during their affair..some who knew her said it was deliberate. She's now 26...the exWS is 51..and they are raising their innocent, precious little 4 year old son born with Downs Syndrome. And yet...others let her rule the roost!

It gets me sometimes how someone who is kind, caring, considerate, hard working, a committed parent, respectful of others... ends up working against them in terms of attracting men! And Peachy, from reading your posts from the past several months it's obvious that you are a quality woman.

Obviously I have no words to ease the pain and disappointment of your situation. I greatly admire your courage in stepping out into dating again. I guess as long as our hearts are open to loving, they're open to all feelings. You have been a wonderful example to me of a woman who can regroup and not be totally taken down again. Thank you.

I hope peace and comfort come to you in this time.

THank you Believer (my twin here) and Dobie...Your words are so right on...as for me?

having a skyy vanilla and diet coke (no carbs) and ds is asleep...been asleep since 9 pm. thank goodness. i am not on call and have a light day monday.

I feel horrid.

Sickened. Like the pretty picture I had painted is smashed to bits. Hmmm...and to think that darth has been trying to DELIBERATELY change weekends since he found out I had been regularly going to nashvegas...he found out I had been seeing soembody so the xh tried to (and YEA I AM SO HAPPY NOW IN RETROSPECT) give me ds on weekends that were his...

I am so blessed ds is with me this weekend rather than my alt. plans which were to go to nashvegas.

And yes, Dobie...you make some excellent points. Very excellent points...especially part about how the man thought I"D never do this. Me do what? I didn't do anything. I am just reacting to HIS NEGATIVE CHOICE. That is how I see it. And when he tries to call...which he shall...I will say it that way. and then hang up!

Believer, you're right. I told him tonight that I am about more than this. That when he'd be done with this, if I am still single (I loved I said that...where in the heck did my courage come from i ask you?) then he can take it up w/me then......

I think I need to cry a bit. I am feeling a bit lightheaded from the lovely cocktail though.

Damn it. He was it. My sis and best friend have called 2x. Both thought he was it. My sis and bro in law just last month, found my old college pin( his frat pin) that I had...they were saving it for when they saw him next, and were gonna say, "we knew you were gonna need this someday...we salvaged it from when peach and you broke up last time."

they are crushed. my sis (a bs but my bro in law is a very very loving and repentant former WS) and bro in law are horrified. They are flying into protective mode of me. Which is not good if he does pull his head outta his [censored].

J's words tonight were definitely words I've heard before. And b/c of his and I serious past (we almost married 14 years ago) and recent almost serious present, they are saddened beyond belief. But I told them to not judge just yet. That I am strong and will do what I want. My sis is gonna send J the info regarding the ortho surgeon back home with the links b/c she said "I don't want you to give him the pleasure of seeing your precious siggie line or email addy in his in box"...it wil come from ME!

Best friend T and sis both said to pour myself a carb friendly cocktail (skyy and diet coke w/crushed ice) since I am now a single chickiepoo again. Darn this sux. I thought he was it. He thought (BEFORE HE DIDN'T THINK) that I was it.

Something funny friends...when he said ""well I will definitely call you and tell you what I am doing. I will let you know what I am thinking and what I decide to do about us. I did not know or think this could happen. I feel horrible and guilty. I suddenly am worried you won't even be available when I do realize all of this."

Wanna know my actual reply? "I care for you J...know you care for me deeply and I care FAR TOO MUCH TO WATCH A TRAIN WRECK IN SLOW MOTION FROM A DISTANCE."

I sure hope some BS here sees this response AND USES IT FOR THEIR WS! Those words were classic. My sis loved it. J was dumbfounded. He is not exactly ready for my departure from the relationship.

He called back once. He wanted to say that he "thought our line had been prematurely disconnected" or that I'd hung up. (I hung up). I restated my point of view (from a dating rather than marriage perspective from Princess Di)...he said "I think that quote btw is quite classy." Yea, he said that. He said that he will call me DESPITE MY WORDS OF NO CONTACT UNTIL NC WITH THE XGF/XPSYCHO GF....and tell me. I say, "No J. I care far too much to see this happen negatively to you. It is definitely a train wreck in slow motion." He said, "funny thing Peach....when I CONFESSED (yea his verbage) to my family/friends at practice who know us/ that I went out with her again, they ALL SAID THE SAME THING." Wow! They all said the same thing...that J was making a huge mistake.

He said that he didn't think how this could have done all this to himself.

WOWIE. WHY IN THE HADES CAN'T THE WS HERE FIGURE THIS CRAPOLA OUT? AT LEAST THIS MAN SEES IT NOW...OR SO I THINK...

He admitted he missed her. That he was sad HER SON, AGE 4, DIDN'T HAVE A DAD... I said that my ds, age seven , DOESN'T HAVE A REAL DAD EITHER...He said, "well your ds has a dad that acknowledges him." Me? : I DIDN'T SCREW AROUND. I WAS MARRIED. MY XH KNOWS HIS SPERM CREATED HIS SON."

J said that he understood that. I told him that my life wuold have been 100 percent EASIER if I had a non=participant dad for a WS. That if his dad had gone mia as we thought initially he would have done, that my life would be plain and simple.

J went on to say "well peach...I know you're going to take darth back to court. I was worried you'd never move. You'd never be able to change things." Me: "Then you're a less of a lawyer than I thoguht...and one with such incredible experience and expertise. Does darth scare you?"

He said, "darth is outta control." Me: I keep him in line. I am doing this year what is best for my son. If i choose to live in atlanta, or timbuktu, or in alabama with my family, I will be happy. You aren't in the "happy equation". My ds and I are that equation."

He went on to say "well peach, you know that night at fleming's I told you how easily i could fall in love w/you again.." Me: I am not good w/words. I DO ACTIONS.

He fell suddenly silent. He asked me again to TOMORROW email him w/the contact info of the doc for his mom. he said we would talk again. He then inquired if I was speaking with Rick, the xbf p.a. I used to date. I told him R had asked me out. which is the TRUTH! He freaked. He asked what my plans are. I told J that I didn't know.

He re=iterated that he didn't want this to happen. I said "Well J. When you chose...YOU CHOSE...to go out with this woman, you made it happen."

I made him own his actions. I would not fall itno the whole "peach lives in atl and I live in nashvegas" excuse.

I told him if somebody MATTERED AND WERE LOVED ENOUGH that distance would not be an option.

it would be a mere issue to discuss...one to solve together.

He said in the end..."I don't think we're not gonna talk again." Me: "I don't know." Him: "but we have besides our relationship such a strong friendship"...me: "FRIENDS DON'T DO FRIENDS THIS WAY."

He then alluded to my leaving my undies over there...I said so what. I told him Victoria's Secret is open seven days a week! He said that he would miss our talks and that the plants and planters I designed for the house looked great and that they were doing well. He said that he knew I had good ideas for his house. I told him "well for an inconvienient woman, I do have an incredible gift for interior design." He then said "I don't think I can ever trust C again." Me: "That's a chance you foolishly chose."

Peach, I know you and I haven't always seen eye to eye but I'm very sorry to hear this.

I put a bit of a "warning" to you once on a thread of yours but you sounded so happy and my post sounded so mean and petty that I deleted it.

I don't know if you know but my A was with my old HS b/f. I didn't marry him then and I wouldn't marry him now.

My "warning" was that you made the choice many years ago not to pursue this relationship for real reasons, distance, losing touch, whatever. If you'd wanted to pursue it then, you would have moved heaven and earth to do so. I believe when we make those original decisions our gut is telling us the right thing.

Don't give up on love. Never give up on love.

Oh heartmending...my heart goes out to you my dearier. My xh married an ow who was more than a decade younger and a ho too boot. Just like yours. Sounds like she's such a catch (*lmao)....with that guttie hanging over her low rise!

I say be the hottie older woman and teach the girl how jeans are supposed to be worn~! think terry hatcher and desperate h.wives! Your xwh will realize what he's done. And he will cry in his morning oatmeal.

But I sure hope and pray that you are able to heal your M. Sure the OW are desperate...some are former OW, like the girl my now former bf is messing with as SHE HAD AN AFFAIR W/A MARRIED GUY...

Just realize you're smarter than this. WE KNOW RIGHT AND WRONG. And in the end,? what will happen? WE will be ok.

God bless you. I know you're hurting.

Lemme tell you. Having had my xh cheat w/a younger woman and the bf go out w/a younger woman, his xgf...that this...AGE DON'T MATTER!

Look at Christie Brinkley. She is awesome! She is so much better than the 19 yo who had the affair w/her H.

Sadly, this week, J and I discussed the Christie B. affair. He got amazingly defensive of it, since he told me when I was in my 20's the man thought I had the same bone structure as her...amazingly darth did too.

I am going for cocktail numero dos.

You are awesome. Your ws will maybe not know what has happened until he is knee deep in the ow "sheeit". That's what I call it. They come along, when a man is vulernable, and say the right things...and find that weak spot.

that's what happened with J. He's been a workaholic. I haven't seen him in a few weeks. She finds out he's happy. She hates it! She wanted the "things" that go along with him and his life...I care for him for being "him." and for knowing him as long as I have.

this totally sux!

i am so crushed by this.

how dare he. we were different. he knows it too. she is nothing but a convenient woman.

I think I called her that tonight in fact. but in a dignified way.

he he he. When I told him the princess di quote, he said "I have heard it before. I could totally see that being you saying that waaaaay before she did. as sad as things are, you it's appropriate. like you."

he knows I am the wise choice.

but CAN I EVER WANT HIM AGAIN? this is not supposed to end like this. Not ever. We were going to be different.

sadly, at the end of convo 2, he said "Peach, where is it you want to go now? (we changed subject briefly adn I told him I wanted to go diving) I say maybe to cozumel for diving...or mayan riviera for r and r. He said "why not bahamas? Your fav place?" I say I don't know. He asks me to define my perfect get away. I am angry at this point. I say to him (after skyy numero one)..."J are you trying to steal my happy place to take that woman?" He says "oh no. I am just wanting to know what you think." Me: I am NOT THINKING NOW.

Thanks Kiwi J. You're so sweet.

I am not ever moving heaven or earth for a man. They must first show ME that they are serious. Serious enough for a serious move. And we were getting close. It had all the right signs. WE had no issues in our prior r.

None.

No cheating. No cross words. No fighting. Nothing.

And tonight? No fighting. I said my words, which were disconcerting to him. And he was totally nice. He should be...HE SCREWED UP.

and KiwiJ. I love ya. I DO listen to you and take your words seriously. In years past, we were far too burdened by schoolwork (my in medical his in law) and our coursework far too intense to do something like marriage...even though we were pinned and wanted to do so. a move in that time, would have meant one of us would have had to quit school. we felt we were invincible then...that nothing would change.

both of us when married were faithful. he on the rebound dated this horrid woman. this former WS girl...who did cheat with a MM and had a child outta wedlock with somebody else..and a paralegal at his firm. and she's preyed on him since.

when they broke up in feb., he swore he was done. there were SO NUMEROUS ISSUES SERIOUSLY WRONG that he could not imagine anything else w/her. but she was not done. she has relentlessly pursued him for months since knowing I was who he was dating.

last year, for example, she BURNED ALL PHOTOS OF ME HE HAD KEPT THROUGH THE YEARS...she found them and did away w/them. some of them were of when I had won several beauty pageants and a few from our formals. She said "it's your past...bury her." she tossed away anything that had to do w/me. this is why I am so upset.

I told him tonight that if this is what he's chosen to do, then that's ok but I bow out. he didn't say he knew what he wanted, just that he wanted me but had unresolved feelings for her. He admits she's unstable, makes poor decisions, that I am more attractive than her, but SHE LIVES IN SAME CITY....

I am just so sad right now.

skyy numero dos finito. teary and going to retire to bed.

this totally sux!

how dare he!

My dear peach,

U r always a lady 1st. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Luv u 4 it!!!

Sending a boatload of support and hugz from da' eye of da' Pacific. We gotz a bit of wind / rain here tonight, remanent of Hurricane Daniel. It's warm and balmy, sticky actually..... only cooling down a bit now.

I tell about the weather because like the hurricane, this too shall pass. The turbulence that past your way did not shake your resolve. If anything he will learn how NOT to treat a real lady. At the most, he may really come around but that takes time. He's got a lot of smooshing t/d 4 u. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hugz,
L.

sis and best friend are up having the last cocktail w/me tonight...I am dessimated.

we're im'ming and listening to inxs...

sis said this again reminds her of song "pretty vegas"...

and I am soooo sad.

this is absolutely horrid. we have a 20 year history. xbf and i.

he is not the xbf...or x whtever in the ****** he is.

i am now crying...to "since u been gone"...

this is not like me./

ok...I've lost it...crying my eyes out....sis is on phone and bf on im...

here's my song for the whole thing.:

Behind These Hazel Eyes:

Seems like just yesterday
You were a part of me
I used to stand so tall
I used to be so strong
Your arms around me tight
Everything, it felt so right
Unbreakable, like nothin' could go wrong
Now I can't breathe
No, I can't sleep
I'm barely hanging on

Here I am, once again
I'm torn into pieces
Can't deny it, can't pretend
Just thought you were the one
Broken up, deep inside
But you won't get to see the tears I cry
Behind these hazel eyes

I told you everything
Opened up and let you in
You made me feel alright
For once in my life
Now all that's left of me
Is what I pretend to be
So together, but so broken up inside
'Cause I can't breathe
No, I can't sleep
I'm barely hangin' on

Here I am, once again
I'm torn into pieces
Can't deny it, can't pretend
Just thought you were the one
Broken up, deep inside
But you won't get to see the tears I cry
Behind these hazel eyes

Swallow me then spit me out
For hating you, I blame myself
Seeing you it kills me now
No, I don't cry on the outside
Anymore...

Here I am, once again
I'm torn into pieces
Can't deny it, can't pretend
Just thought you were the one
Broken up, deep inside
But you won't get to see the tears I cry
Behind these hazel eyes

Here I am, once again
I'm torn into pieces
Can't deny it, can't pretend
Just thought you were the one
Broken up, deep inside
But you won't get to see the tears I cry
Behind these hazel eyes


****** the whole damn kelly c. album.

ok...it's hit me.

i am now bawling my eyes out. this is sooo wrong.

isn't there some chapter in the BS handbook that says after a horrid divorce, that the BS deserves to be happy?

I am now crying my eyes out more..

this tune is boulevard of broken dreams by green day.

still crying...song is perfect..three cocktails...

think this song reminded me of sadly the x...but now the all time x.

Scars..Papa Roach

I tear my heart open, I sew myself shut
My weakness is that I care too much
And my scars remind me that the past is real
I tear my heart open just to feel

Drunk and I'm feeling down
And I just wanna be alone
I'm pissed cause you came around
Why don't you just go home
Cause you channel all your pain
And I can't help you fix yourself
You're making me insane
All I can say is

I tear my heart open, I sew myself shut
My weakness is that I care too much
And me scars remind us that the past is real
I tear my heart open just to feel

I tried to help you once
Against my own advice
I saw you going down
But you never realized
That you're drowning in the water
So I offered you my hand
Compassion is in my nature
Tonight is our last stand

I tear my heart open, I sew myself shut
My weakness is that I care too much
And my scars remind us that the past is real
I tear my heart open just to feel

I'm drunk and I'm feeling down
And I just wanna be alone
You shouldn't ever come around
Why don't you just go home?
Cause you're drowning in the water
And I tried to grab your hand
And I left my heart open
But you didn't understand
But you didn't understand
Go fix yourself

I can't help you fix yourself
But at least I can say I tried
I'm sorry but I gotta move on with my own life
I can't help you fix yourself
But at least I can say I tried
I'm sorry but I gotta move on with my own life

I tear my heart open, I sew myself shut
My weakness is that I care too much
And my scars remind us that the past is real
I tear my heart open just to feel

I tear my heart open, I sew myself shut
My weakness is that I care too much
And my scars remind us that the past is real
I tear my heart open just to

Music doesn't seem t/b soothing your tired soul. Drinking doesn't seem to be making you forget either.

Go rest those red eyes and let your body work on making you stronger for tomorrow.

Hugz,
L.

peach, i don't know you but i know your pain...stay within your boundaries ....you did the right thing...and you did it with the style of a lady...stand firmly and let him do the squriming...j

My sincerest cyberhugs for
(((((JustPeachy)))))
Brit from Belgium

Drinking doesn't do much for clear thinking...more for wallowing in it and getting over emotional.

I think the distance thing does play into this a bit...not to excuse his choices, but if you two work this out I think you need to step up a decision to be together (start by living closer) and make this permanent asap. One of you needs to move...I thought he was going to relocate to Atlanta. That would be best probably given that this xgf works in his office there. You've had enough time to know what you wanted this time.

I think setting clear boundaries is good and strong of you. He knows where you stand. I don't like some of his excuses...but I kinda get the distance part. Dr. Harley says that we shouldn't be away from our spouse overnight...ever. I think that a bit extreme but I also think that there is wisdom in it.

I think you are a really good person and deserve all happiness and joy.

I hope you got a good night sleep...but I doubt it will be enough if your son is with you this morning.

Look Peach,

You've only been dating him a few months. You have set your boundaries very high - where they should be. Few men will be able to fill those shoes. Do you undertsand what I'm saying? You are in the weeding out process, that's all. You've got to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your Prince.

All may not be lost either. He overstepped a boundary. There were clear and painful consequences. He has lost you because of it. He now knows you are not just any 'ole gal he dated. You are top shelf and he blew it big time. If he thinks he is going to court you again, he better be prepared because the bar has been raised. He could be a diamond in the rough, or he could be someone you don't need to waste any more time crying over.

Peach, nothing gets a guy's attention like a girl that doesn't want him anymore. You're not good enough for me - poof - you're gone. He will be knockin' your door down girlfriend! You can then decide if this was a one time inconsiderate aberration or if you'd prefer to go ahead to the ball without him. He now knows you don't mess with the Peach!