I found via my keylogger that my wife 4 days ago searched on menstral cycle/ovulation and how to tell your pregnant.

Now she has been with OM 3 times we live in NC and he in NY.

The second time when she came back she started her period, from that date I figure that when she was there the 3rd time she was ovulating and fertile.

She should have started her period this weekend but so far I don't think she has

So I am only guessing at this point

She still contends that she hasn't sleeped with him - Ha no one belives that.

I just don't know what to do, do I ask her again?
Do I offer to get her a EPT?
What do I check for, can I check her underware for spotting?
I still do her laundry

check the garbage can for EPT. If she's got any level of intelligence she'll throw it in the outside garbage can. Also, you can look for used sanitary products (gross, I know but...oh well).

Viking - I disagree. Don't do that stuff. If she is pregnant she will soon be very tired at the end of the day, perhaps a bit nauseous, perhaps quit drinking coffee or change her eating habits. And, if you know her body well you will notice it's different (swelled breasts)

She may be late due to stress, etc., it's pretty normal.

Em

the only snooping you need to do is keep an eye on the trash for the wrappers of her feminine products. if she is menstateing then she will be using more and there will be more wrapers in the can.

other then that you need to work on your marriage. if she is pregnant and you haven't been intimate with her yo will know it soon enough. be alert to her felling nauseous (sp?) at the same time each day.

if you truly suspect her infidelity then ask her about it. openness and honesty is the only way to get thru this stuff. you can also ask her to take an ept test if you wish. since she has been unfaithful in the past then you have a right to be suspicous.

only to add a few more things for em's post

I WENT THROUGH THIS LAST MONTH! ok enough yelling, here's the thing! If a woman's body is stressed out & freaked, it does weird things. you should know all about not eating enough or too much will stop your bleeding (basic health & sex ed stuff) well there's a little more to it then that. the body is an amazing thing, if it wants a baby it picks the best time to have one, through chaos & ****** is generally seen as NOT one of those times.

ok my case last month I ovulated 2 weeks LATE (as in the day I should have gotten auntie flo) (I'm lucky, ovulating hurts me like heck, I've even been to the er a few times for it so yes even my hubby can tell, if he's home) & the month before that I got my cycle a full week early, just because my hubby came back from his "trip" (no thanks mr. bush!) but when I was late I WAS in pain (boobs) I couldn't take my bra off (I'm a bit large up top) it hurt too much (yeah yuck but true) I was weepy overly emotional & every other symptom you have for early pregnancy except I WAS NOT PREGNANT, I ovulated twice that month so my body was waiting for "the 2nd batch" but that's an E.R. trip since I was out of town that week! not getting your period & having a neg test after 1 week is as much a problem (for her) as the possibility of her being pregnant from, who can guess, is for both of you! calmly quietly if it's been more then 1 week, just ask. bite your tongue hold your temper whatever the answer may be, but be THERE & ask. there are MANY options regardless of the outcome. Just remember be gentle most women are freaked out enough over this even if we've done this before & have nothing to hide! For her it's horrid. (remember if she is pregnant, it's a baby, nothing more nothing less, not the kid's fault it isn't even have a heart beat yet) breathe, ask LOTS of question but stay CALM! LOTS of blood running had better be from your mouth FIRST if she is pregnant!(as in bite your tongue, blood makes the act obvious, lol) and remember right now the odds are about 50/50, that YOU could be the "idiot jerk" that knocked her up so do nothing stupid. Just focus on the A & what caused it, CALMLY, then the other stuff will sort itself out. & if she hasn't said anything to him yet, tell her not to, you're the hubby you can handle it....I hope you get the picture. thanks! -ar

vikingruler,

Every woman's menstrual cycle isn't the same. One day you could be used to getting it towards the end of the month...and then one day you wake up you get it on the 1st or 2nd week of the month.

And I agree with the posts here that say stress can be a huge factor for delays in the cycle (whether or not your W is stressing about an unwanted pregnancy, that's another story). In my own experience, I've had delays happen within 4 days to a week.

If she is pregnant, she won't be able to hide it for long. In the meantime, what are you planning to do about her A? Are you willing to work out your M with her? What are you prepared to do?

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