Ordered those books yet?

Filed out the EN questionaires?

WAT

I am planning on buying the books at the store... probably today.

I started working on the sheet, but can't fill it out on my wifes behalf...

Yes you can.

Go back and re-read your homework assignment on this.

WAT

I got told by my wife that I will be getting served with DIVORCE papers in about a week.

What a lovely payment for 6 years of labor of love huh?
And she told me she wants me to pay for her car payment and child support since she doesn't make enough to make it on her own.
Pretty much told me I could have my child like one day during the week and every other weekend.
People were right, this isn't the same woman I loved or even married... this is a woman who is burning me.

She told me that she quit talking to her ex, but I wonder where she got over 500 dollars to get papers drawn and filed not to mention 300+ to serv me with???

Basically my feeling is this... she did it to get back with her ex to get her kids back and pretty much wants to screw me.

She told me I would have twenty days to agree with it or she automatically gets what she wants.
Trust me, the gloves are gonna come off now... she will be taking my daughter to live in that house where he stays and so does her kids... she will have no room of her own there, will have to share with her half sister.

I am at a loss here... I love her, but I am over being treated like a moron... How can she live with herself?

U w/b stuck in the mud until u start paying attention to some of the suggestions here. I am not saying we are right but you are letting the WS dictate what will happen. U want to pay for a child you will not see but twice a week?

The WS will try to make you pay for her affair and if u r gulliable enough u will be enabling the A for a long time.

Please go back and read my 1st post to you. There were some suggestions along with other posters suggestions to help you get a plan so you don't get taken to the cleaners.

Do you realize some WS' even try to get the BS to pay for the place where the A turns PA? Tries to get the BS to pay for their vacations with the OP and even pay for the OPs plane fare, etc.? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Don't let that happen 2 u!

L.

not sure i understand...what can i do??? please advise i appreciate the response

What have you done to secure your finances from the WS? How about securing custody of your daughter so the WS doesn't fabricate a story and take your daughter away to use as a tool to manipulate you. You realize a WS will use their children as well as anyone or anything they can to fuel the A. You know this right?

Now go get your self some good legal counsel and check out your options. In no way should you allow the WS to take you to the cleaners. Instead of being scared you should take affirmative action for your family and against the WS. This means you love your W and NOT the WS she has allowed herself to become.

Also, go get some good counseling. Call Jennifer C @ MB for some phone couseling.

take care,
L.

i have gotten counsel just hadnt paid him to do the work for i thought we had time and that it was smoke and mirrors...
turns out you just delayed me to stall me out till she could get the money up... she apparently borrowed from someone, namely the ex that she is denying now...

we have tons of dirt from abandonment to her ex's past and the domestic disputes at the house she is going to...

what other measures can i do...or take - i know this person isnt the one i love, she is a different person and i dont love this person one bit.

please just advise me on anything i can do to protect us... she is unfit in my opinion if she is gonna do what she is doing and then pull this crap with tryin to clean me out so she can live comfortable in her infidelity.

thanks orchid

Just checking, did you say I delayed you to stall you out till she could get the money up? That was never my intention.

As for what to do, please go back and read what has been suggested to you. There's a lot you can do.

L.

no, i was sayin she played me off to stall me out

now she filed for divorce and i have proof that her ex was with her when she did it... just keeping you guys informed

she left - took alot

i posted in "Wife Dropped The Bomb"

living at ex husbands moms house - found some interesting test material that reveals a incriminating action - lord knows she hasnt been active with me in months...

Hey....you said you weren't getting responses but I see a lot of posts to you. What I don't see is you acknowledging or taking to heart our suggestions. I see you all wound up in what the WS is doing.

When will you be ready to work on a recovery plan?

L.

guess I should have kept my posts here and I put them in like 3 different areas.

my situation is different than alot of people...cause in y case the OM is her ex-husband, and she has already left me... and file for divorce.

so far my recovery is being taylors dad and only speaking to my wife regarding my daughter - once i get my daughter from the judge, i want to put a plan b in action with no contact directly... a plan a is in effect but through outside sources.

email me on here and i will feel safer in telling you specifics...

bump...orchid or anyone else

i have listened to advice...but like i said, this one is a bit more sticky than your normal affair/divorce/custody

There have been other's with similar sitches. It is hard but it is also evident that this man is not a good parent not partner in life.

The question is what is drawing her to him? Blackmail, selfish desires, lust, power, money? R U being setup for a fall?

L.

Not sure... blackmail is a possibility... maybe geting custody of her other kids... desires> who knows...???
He doesnt have any money, on SSI he is BI-POLAR.

I took off my wedding band the night she left... wanted her to see me moving forward. She knows I love her...
She keeps trying to hug me when we transfer our daughter... I play it off and barely hug her back... its hard though, but i have to be tough...

she moved out and i am here alone every other night worried sick about my daughter... and hoping she will wake up and come home...

Irregardless of WHAT the OM is....you need t/b strong for you and your daugther.

Hugging a WS is one of the enabling tools the WS uses to keep you meeting her wacko needs. Learn the difference between meeting good needs and being used.

Read any of those books yet?

L.

in my situation, which one would you recommend first...

i am currently reading "believers authority"

bump