I just finished talking to my SIL. She discovered about the OW and the OC thru a mutual friend she and the OW share. My H and I have decided on NC with the OC. My SIL says she will back me 100%. However, my OTHER SIL and my MIL want C with the OC if indeed the OC is my H. How on Earth will this work? The OW is a sneaky b*tch. She will just use them to get information about us. I wish they could see that she's not trying to be part of the family. She just wants to stick around and ruin our M. We live about 20 minutes away from my MIL and about 10 min from my SIL. This is just another headache to deal with. I told my "loyal" SIL that I will not hesitate to cut the others out of my life if they choose to have C with the OW and OC. The OW has 3 kids and was at the club the other night. (Great mom, huh?) That's when she saw my SIL and told the mutual friend,"I think N is mad at me." My SIL said she didn't even know who tha ****** this woman was. I'm telling you, this OW is twisted. She lies to herself and then starts believing her own lies. I really would love to have a little control over this sitch. But it's all spiraling out of control the more people that find out. I'm depressed again.

AR, now is the time for hubby to stand up to his mommy. His job is to protect you and your marriage. He needs to tell mom to butt out! (I sure wish mine would, OW made C with my MIL and they are *gag* puke* "best friends" according to OW. MIL even took over financial responsibilty of the phone used by my H and OW during the A. Needless to say, we do not speak and she will not be seeing my children any time soon. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Hang in there and keep strong.

I agree with faithful. Any contact with the OW/OC not blessed by your h, is really showing utter contempt and lack of respect to your husband. They may argue they only want to do it for the child, etc... but the fact of the matter is, if the child is your h's, IT IS HIS CHOICE. And MIL and SIL, will only be interferring and making matters worse for everyone, in their own selfish interest, not in the interest of the child.

If your husband, doesn't stand up to his parents and siblings, I believe there will be a world of unnecessary future hurt for you and any COM, and it will be much more difficult for you and your h to rebuild your marriage, unless he goes little to nc with his parents and siblings that so chose to disrespect his wishes.

If indeed the child is your h? So DNA has not established paternity, so why are they already planning what they (sil and mil) will do with another's child (your h's) IF and when it is established he is your h's child?

I can speak through experience that unless your h stands up to his mother and sister, it will be almost impossible to remain in your m.

They will place your h in a position to chose either the child or you, mark my word, it will happen, maybe not at first but it is a natural progression. Or you will be forced to make your h to choice either your family, or his family of origin if he doesn't do something to stop their interference now.

God Bless You
Ann