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From the 5 or 6 posts you have NOTHING to offer to the women and men here! If you have been in these shoes, whether the BS or WS, then share your experiences, but otherwise, don't put your nose where it doesn't belong. And, to answer a couple of your questions, NO ONE IS EVER PERFECT!!!!!!!! I, myself, have dealt with many years of guilt for what I did, and I have forgiven myself. You come here, on your high horse, judging the women who have stayed with their FWH(emphasis on the F for FORMAR) and repaired their marriages. Just as my H and other BH's have stayed and repaired their marriages! Am I proud of what I did, no, and I never will be, but I can honestly say that I will NEVER do something like that again!

If you are now in this situation, please post about it and maybe we can help you through it, otherwise, don't offer your offhanded remarks when you don't have ANY idea what these people are going through. If you don't like it, tough, but your comments aren't helping ANYONE!


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tigger, at first I thought you were being a bit harsh and I didnt comment

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good for you. I am glad you did not take it "lying down" as some do here. How could you ever trust him again? you cant!

Some here have had husbands who have had two, three, or 4 affairs and 3 other children born from them! Yet thier wives put up with them.

I cant see it.

So now I see what tigger was referring to. I am a BS, d-day August 05 with 2 alleged step-c (ages 15 & 9) by the same woman. I say alleged because no DNA and how exactly could I ever know or for that matter how could my h ever exactly know whom the biofather is without DNA. As far as I know there are only 3 here who have more than one step-child born as a result of adultery, one I know and one I dont, so I prefer if you have any comments regarding me or my situation you start another thread for it, and stop bleeding into other people's thread

I havent ever and dont ever intend to "take anything lying down". That is a speciality of an unrepentent adulteress.

This site is Marriage Builders.

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Tigger,

I saw a couple of posts today too, including one that was to a thread that last had activity in July. You beat me to the punch in asking, but I still gotta ask...

Stellakat...what up wid dat?

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Stellakat,

Alright, you got our attention. Other then dig up threads and spout off, do you need help? Do you want to tell us your story?

Wether you have a beef with FWS, WS. BS, OWs or maybe even God himself. I and many other are willing to hear what you have to say.

If you continue to spout, most I suspect will simply view you as someone who wants to stir up a fight and will just ignore you.

My skin is pretty thick. If you would like to spout off at this FWS, be my guest!

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Thank you Tigger. I was so angry yesterday when I saw her posts that I had to log off or risk getting banned. Stella if you are in need of help, we can help you. Otherwise, I respectfully request you stay off this board. This particular place is full of people with the double whammy of an OC as well as infidelity.

Hi Tigger! Hope you are well.


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My issues happened too long ago. Sorry i upset you all. I forget I cant just come on and say exactly how I feel I have to temper it to the audiance. Sorry again. It upsets me too much to read about what you all put up with. I could not do it. Sorry.

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Hello FF,

I am doing as well as expected since Sailorman is on a 6 month deployment. We are about 1 1/2 months through it, with 4 1/2 to go. We had a wonderful Christmas, although very bittersweet. Poor Abbi is saddened whenever we use her nickname that her Daddy uses, so we try to not to use it too often.

As for Stella, well, even if it's stuff that happened long ago, it doesn't mean that everyone will react in the same way you did, and to say that you have to temper your comments, well, for the majority on this area of the forum, MOST have been living their situations for more than a year and have been using the MB principles to much success. I'm sorry if your situation was one that you couldn't stomach, but to say to a woman, who has not been on this board since July and was probably miscarrying at the time, to go have an abortion....As I said before, it sickens me to read garbage like that! I was in that woman's shoes 6 years ago, and, with thanks to many who have long since moved on, saved my M and we are getting ready to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary! YOU CAN MOVE ON from situations like this. I'm not saying that it's for everyone, but when someone comes in here, not offering her story, blasting everyone and everything in her path, well, I'm quite protective to these wonderful people and will do what I have to to protect them. Too many of them haven't been around as long as I have, and so I feel as if I'm their big sister, so to speak. Again, if you are in this situation, please share and we will do everything to help, but, if you are just here to stir the pot, leave it be. I'm not looking to argue or compare notes, just stating the facts. If you don't have anything helpful to offer, please, as others have said, stay off this part of the forum. Unless you've lived this specific situation, you would NEVER understand.


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Unless you've lived this specific situation, you would NEVER understand.
Well said! Tigger, thank your hubby for serving our country. I pray for our soldiers all the time. Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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