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I'm interested in your opinions on this (copied from Marriage Minute, 25th December):
[color:"blue"]How Can I Know Who To Marry?
Consider Character...
. Willingness to serve, humility
. Sexual purity
. Devotion to Christ
. Right priorities
. Right beliefs
. Commitment to church
. Loving attitude
. Self-control
. Honesty
. Beauty below the skin
. Responsibility
. Good relationship with parents
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No replies!!!!
I agree with most or all of the list above....
I can honestly look at this list post D and see where my EX WW, while I loved her and overlooked much of her shortcomings, was missing in many of the above categories.
Good list in my opinion.
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- cute - handsome - TALL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I would add... - caring - flexible (attitude that is <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />) - understanding - supportive - respectful - looks like Scarlet Johannson <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Have a great New Year's Eve and all the best in 2007!
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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Crystal ball?
I think a lot of these things are sort of hindsight dependent. A person looks, believes, and behaves differently at 18 than at 58 usually with a lot of transitory periods in between.
My experience has been that most people aren't self aware or relationship aware enough to describe THEMSELVES accurately much less so able to measure a potential mates compatability.
Aside from a few red flag behaviors most of these things are discovered along the way.
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I think I am going to have to side with Noodle on this one. Most of us are clueless during the infatuation stage and without the infatuation stage, we seldom get engaged and married.
Honesty is the big deal with me. Not only honesty in their dealings with others; of even higher importance is honesty in dealing with themselves. How many people out there justify following their emotions around whilst engaging in activities that impact in a negative way with those they associate with on a daily basis. An affair is dishonest by definition.
Nobody is perfect. I have never met anyone who could live up to a positive read on all of the items on the list, not one, not ever and certainly not myself.
In my opinion, complimentary character traits between two people make a good match along with common interests.
Larry
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Never marry anyone that has not gone at least 6 months without having a significant other in their life.
Don't be someone's heroin.
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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I would add
- Compatible goals (between the two people) AND
- Self-knowledge
to the list.
-AD
A guy, 50. Divorced in 2005.
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