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Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day Pepperband #1804705 01/09/07 12:09 PM
Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 3,525 N noodle Member
noodle Member N Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 3,525	Bingo. You have to call her bluff and make HER uncomfortable. I don't buy for one second that it was coincidence that she "ran into" you twice in one day. I know if I didn't want to see someone...even living nearby it isn't hard at all to avoid them. I conclude it is intentional..she is trolling..keeping herself relevent and in the equation.

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day Pepperband #1804706 01/09/07 12:19 PM
Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,466 M Maybe2late Member
Maybe2late Member M Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,466	Quote Quote thanks for all the suggestions...i am just worried about doing anything to make her upset...i feel she is very vindictive and i am afraid of what she might do...this has caused so much anxiety...i worry she is at my bank so she can run into my husband...and i also worry she is hiding away money in a bank account her husband doesn't know about...so she can leave him and come after my husband...she is very manipulative. never be afraid to stand up to a bully if you remain scared, she has you right where she can manipulate you Pep You have 2 small kids at home and this woman is still trying to interefer with your family. It is time to become a mother bear! If this contact happens agian get up in her face and repeat things like Pep said. Let her be damned that tries to come between you and your H. Who the he)) is she? Skank b1tch. You have been thru he)) for your M and now is not the time to back down. M2L ME BH 36 - FWW 33 2 kids DDAY May 06 Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day Maybe2late #1804707 01/09/07 06:04 PM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas S snr419 OP Member
OP snr419 Member S Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas	could he be going through withdrawl again since running into her in November...he has said he has been depressed...and he doesn't want to be intimate and he says it is because of the depression and stress...he says we don't need to go to counseling...but then today he says we have been fighting a lot and our house has been very stressful...so i don't understand why he wouldn't go to counseling...sometimes i feel like he is acting this way because he is trying to make me leave...even today he said maybe i should just leave...but then he took it back and said he didn't mean it...but i am getting close to saying this is over...but that is not what i really want...i just feel like i am the only one fighting here...can one person save a marriage... BS-27(Me) WS-29 D-Day-April 10 2006 stay at home mom 2 kids (23 months and 10.5 months) NC-April 26 2006 D-day 2 2/3/2007 d-day 3 2/27/2007 d-day 4 6/15/2007 (OW says she is pregnant) "A woman is like a teabag; you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water."

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day Maybe2late #1804708 01/10/07 09:21 AM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas S snr419 OP Member
OP snr419 Member S Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas	bump BS-27(Me) WS-29 D-Day-April 10 2006 stay at home mom 2 kids (23 months and 10.5 months) NC-April 26 2006 D-day 2 2/3/2007 d-day 3 2/27/2007 d-day 4 6/15/2007 (OW says she is pregnant) "A woman is like a teabag; you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water."

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day snr419 #1804709 01/10/07 09:28 AM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote could he be going through withdrawl again since running into her in November... no Quote he has said he has been depressed...and he doesn't want to be intimate and he says it is because of the depression and stress... RED FLAG #1 Quote he says we don't need to go to counseling... RED FLAG #2 Quote but then today he says we have been fighting a lot and our house has been very stressful... RED FLAG #3 Quote so i don't understand why he wouldn't go to counseling...sometimes i feel like he is acting this way because he is trying to make me leave... I think he is trying to get you to kick him out Quote even today he said maybe i should just leave... RED FLAG #4 Quote but then he took it back and said he didn't mean it...but i am getting close to saying this is over... this is making you feel disconnected and confused ... this is what someone who has had RECENT contact does Quote but that is not what i really want...i just feel like i am the only one fighting here... you probably are the only one actually fighting for the marriage ... I suspect FWH may have dropped the "F" Quote can one person save a marriage... I think you need help ... can you get a friend to follow H? can you afford a GPS device? I think this affair may have not been completely extinguished... it's like your H is behaving in ways to make YOU feel hopeless as the OW is making you feel intimidated by 'showing up' VERY suspicious this does NOT look like it is "over" sorry Pep LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day Pepperband #1804710 01/10/07 09:57 AM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas S snr419 OP Member
OP snr419 Member S Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas	no i have no friends or family here that could follow him....and we can not afford GPS...i am a stay at home mom so we are barely getting by as it is on one income...i am almost to the point that i don't care anymore...i am just confused because i have 2 babies and i don't know what to do...i am going to my IC today...maybe that will help BS-27(Me) WS-29 D-Day-April 10 2006 stay at home mom 2 kids (23 months and 10.5 months) NC-April 26 2006 D-day 2 2/3/2007 d-day 3 2/27/2007 d-day 4 6/15/2007 (OW says she is pregnant) "A woman is like a teabag; you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water."

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day snr419 #1804711 01/10/07 11:32 AM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote ...i am going to my IC today...maybe that will help get to know your legal rights call legal aide to get a cheap referal you need to educate yourself about how you can legally protect yourself has $$$ been disappearing without your knowing what it has been spent on? who keeps the financial records, you or H? Pep LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day snr419 #1804712 01/10/07 11:33 AM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote no i have no friends or family here that could follow him.... do you have friends? Pep LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day Pepperband #1804713 01/10/07 11:40 AM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas S snr419 OP Member
OP snr419 Member S Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas	i have a couple of girlfriends...but they don't live nearby...i am the one who does the money...but he did get cash for christmas...that i won't know exactly what he did with it... BS-27(Me) WS-29 D-Day-April 10 2006 stay at home mom 2 kids (23 months and 10.5 months) NC-April 26 2006 D-day 2 2/3/2007 d-day 3 2/27/2007 d-day 4 6/15/2007 (OW says she is pregnant) "A woman is like a teabag; you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water."

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day snr419 #1804714 01/10/07 12:05 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	ask your girlfriends if they can be available to babysit in your home take her car & follow him sometimes something is not right here Pep LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day Pepperband #1804715 01/10/07 12:21 PM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas S snr419 OP Member
OP snr419 Member S Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 126 Texas	i wish they could but they live more than six hours away...the OW was the only person i knew in the town we live in...most of our other friends or family live out of state or very far away BS-27(Me) WS-29 D-Day-April 10 2006 stay at home mom 2 kids (23 months and 10.5 months) NC-April 26 2006 D-day 2 2/3/2007 d-day 3 2/27/2007 d-day 4 6/15/2007 (OW says she is pregnant) "A woman is like a teabag; you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water."

Re: Ran into the OW twice in one day snr419 #1804716 01/10/07 12:37 PM
Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,466 M Maybe2late Member
Maybe2late Member M Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,466	Church members??? Hourly daycare for the kids??? M2L ME BH 36 - FWW 33 2 kids DDAY May 06 Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.

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