ok, i haven't posted in a while.
the holidays went ok. we had one big fight on christmas eve, but my wife woke up the next morning and apologized. this is unusual.
i haven't brought up divorce or anything marriage related (outside of christmas eve). my wife seems content to keep things as they are. she isn't horrible, but she definitely doesn't treat me with respect, nor is she working to improve our marriage or our situation.
my plan was to see an attorney after the holidays and begin the horrible process of ending my marriage. i have followed through with that (scheduled appointment to see attorney on friday). i have not directly told my wife of my plans. i mentioned during our fight christmas eve that i planned on filing for divorce sometime after the new year if things did not improve. she said that she understood and that i deserved better.
i have kept snooping and really haven't found anything concrete. EXCEPT, my wife has to work over every thursday for a special project (it is legit, i've checked). funny thing is, i've spotted the OM's car outside her place of work after the time he normally leaves. i'm only talking 10 or 15 minutes past the time he normally leaves, but it is still later than he normally stays. he normally leaves work between 4:03 to 4:08pm every day. on the days my wife has to work late, he has been leaving at 4:15 to 4:20pm. i haven't confronted her and if i am going to go thru with the divorce i don't see any reason to.
suggestions and opinions are welcomed as i am horrified at the prospect of filing for divorce. not only do i still love my wife, but i have a five year old daughter that i can't imagine not seeing every day.
Last edited by jjstryder; 01/09/07 02:06 AM.