But my spelling is impeccable. My W's affair really had driven me to drink (thanks, dear). And you know what? Frankly, my dear, I don't give a [censored]! (Well, hell, I always figured I could outdo Clarke Gable in bed!) To all of you (SHA, I think of you in particular) who are suffering this life-shortening pain - I can only recommend this madsong -<P>Mammy's lil baby loves shortnin', shortn'n<BR>Mammy's lil baby loves shortnin' bread.<P>All us guys know that, for us, that ole shortnin' bread ain't nothin' but our wives' pussies, if they'd ever come back tuh us, hey guys? I am so freakin drunk ain't never gunna be sober, because she mad at me.<P>--Wex<P>

Hey wexwill,<BR>I'm having a drink with ya bud..i should be in bed cutting zzzz's. I hope things get better for you. <p>[This message has been edited by ruby (edited October 07, 1999).]

wex<P>Just don't drive!!!<P>You're gonna have one HELL of a hangover tomorrow...<BR><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

The temptation to have a few too many drinks may be there, but you'll have to tell me in the morning if it was worth it tonight??<P>Be good to yourself!<P>cozy

OHHHHH - I wonder how you're feeling today, my friend.....<P>I know the feeling. Hope it helped - at least a little!<P>Lori

Wexie, boy,<BR>While you were sitting there drinking your sorrows away at 10:30 p.m. what was your wife doing and why was she mad? What were your exact feelings about what she was mad about and why was it so hard to try to work through those feelings with her by talking, talking, talking. Avoiding confrontation cannot be the way to solve your problems with your wife. Was there no other way to deal with the situation that could have had positive results? Just a question.

Wex,<P>I hope you're okay. You have been so nice and kind to me. If my husband had showed me even half the care you show your wife I would have been the happiest woman on the planet. I just can't understand why a woman would want anyone else when her husband cares so much about her. I really hope you're feeling better today.

Wex, I sure hope your feeling ok today. I know what it feels like, I spent two days in a drunken stupor after having a passionate fight (Purely one sided, my side) with him and feeling I needed to let him in on life, and how it feels to be treated like a pile of you know what! Your a good guy and I am feeling really bad for how you must be feeling this morning so I will give you my world class secret to getting over a hang over and it really works, I haven't even told the hubby this one because I figure he gets what he deserves! Drink LOTS AND LOTS of water! I mean it, drink so much you feel like your drowning! God Bless!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

You know, Wex, those liquid diets never work ..... LOL<P>And you mis-quoted Clark Gable ....<P>So how's the hang-over today? Did ya go to work?

Wex, I hope your hangover isn't as bad as mine. I went to big bash last night and took full advantage of the free bar. I was escorted by my H who can't figure life out....went to my apartment and attempted to make passionate love. Welll....alcohol took its toll on his performance to say the least. I have a headache, I'm dyng of thirst and am "highly frustrated". How are you doing this morning????

Hi all - Actually the hangover wasn't so bad, but I have a cold too, and the combination was a bit much today. I worked for 1/2 day then packed it in. You know, I was so far gone I didn't even remember starting this thread until I happen to be scanning along the topics page! Anyway, I'm better now! (Not drinking tonight.)<P>Janie - I'm always dying of thirst the next morning, so keep a glass of water next to the bed. Also, sometimes, I'll get up and get a glass of ice water, which I strongly recommend. Sorry the marinated sex w/ your H didn't work out so well. That's the problem. Alcohol lowers our inhibitions and makes us want to have fun, but it also retards our performance. Damn! Well, the tried and true solution is to get the woman tipsy and stay sober yourself (if you're a guy!)<P>Maya - I did go to work, actually fairly early, though I knocked off early too and went back to bed. Hangover wasn't so bad. My little trick is to take two extra-strength aspirin before going to sleep. Rarely have a headache if I do this, no matter how much I drink (well, within limits). As to C.G. - What? You mean that's not what he tells Vivian Leigh in GWTW?<P>chick's - Thanks for your concern. In fact I DO drink lots of water. Have to, because I'm thristy as hell (literally!) when I wake up. When I drink, though, I do tend to confine it to evenings rather than going on multiple-day benders, drinking all the time. (I did do this in my youth, but it takes its toll.) I maybe went through a pint of the Comrade (Comrade Smirnov that is) in the space of 4-5 hours. Don't USUALLY get drunk, but think I went a bit over the edge last night, because W got mad at me and took off by herself into the night. (Came back 3-4 hours later, didn't say where she'd been, I didn't ask.)<P>PodPer - You know, I can't understand it either. I DID satisfy her sexually as far as I could tell and we used to have a lot of fun with it. I guess she needed MORE fun - she does have a strong sex drive, though I was willing to do just about anything to satisfy her, I can tell you.<P>PW - Our fight took me totally by surprise. We'd planned to go out to our favorite bar and just sit and talk for a while, about our relationship mainly. She was busy with an online chat group when I got home, so I went down to my basement playstation and started doing MBF stuff. Well, she gets through and I'm not, so I didn't come upstairs until I was finished with a post I was in the middle of (not this one, BTW, but PodPer's one on sex). W was hurt and angry because it had taken me so long to come upstairs and she wanted to plan our evening together. She felt I'd forgotten about it (which I hadn't). I felt blindsided by her anger, so got angry myself and off we went. Well, this is ostensibly why we're in couples therapy.<P>Lori - I'm OK, in fact feeling much better now and not drinking.<P>cozy - That's really the tradeoff, isn't it. I will say that drinking actually is a great escape for me. For one thing, it allows me to think about something else besides my W's affair, which I tend to think obessively about most of the time. On the other hand, as we all know, I do pay the next morning. And that's how I stop when I want to. I just tell myself for the next however long time period, I want to be able to feel good when I wake up!<P>Sheryl - When I answered your other post, I didn't even remember having done this one!! I never drive when I drink if I can possibly avoid it. Didn't last night. I will even ask W to drive. This isn't out of consideration so much as not wanting to lose my license! (Suspension is mandatory in my state.)<P>ruby - Glad to know I wasn't drinking alone!<P>Regards and blessings, I'm off to bed,<P>--Wex<BR>

Hey Wex - Guess I missed this one when you were schnockered. Let me be the first to pour you a mondo size cup of joe. Are you feeling better?<P>SHA<P>P.S. I had read some where Clarke was a little light in the loafers, so I'm sure it wouldn't be that hard to out do him in bed.

Hey, Sir Hurts, when did you or where did you hear that about clark??? I'd like to know what lois has to say! . I usually have a nice big bottle or two of zinfandel when I went on a bing, but haven't drank in about 3 months and now it looks as though I can't for the next 7 months, so you can make it up for me Wex, ok? THANKS!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P><BR>

Hey, Wex, can you be my new drinkin bud?? I seem to be drowning in the bottle of Merlot, nightly. Occasionally afternoons if a friend gets me started. Only think is, it ain't working anymore. But tonite I have a feeling I am going out and getting s**t kickin drunk anyway. Life sucks, drunk or sober. And yes, I keep a big glass of water by the bed. <BR><BR>I know this is my choice, but I'd like to thank my H for being a BIG contributing factor.

ATW - I'd love to be drinking buddies with you. Hate drinking alone! With the Merlot, I'd say you have a lot better taste than I do. My problem is that it takes about 1-1/2 liters of the purple stuff to get me to the place where 1/2 liter of the Comrade gets me (plus the Comrade is a lot cheaper, doesn't leave evidence on your breath and I can disguise it as a glass of water - actually the major reasons for my choice).<P>Went back and reread your profile. You story is heartbreaking and I feel bad for you. I think alcohol is OK as a means for dealing with this kind of pain as long as you don't totally trash yourself. (I have quite a few rules about drinking, which I stick to pretty well.) And I think it's OK to say that our spouses have driven us to this. When I met my W, I hadn't had a drink for 5 or 6 years (since my divorce from 1st W and the death of my mother about the same time). I only started this time when I realized my W WAS having an affair. On the bright side, at least drinking makes us think metric system!<P>chick's - Congrats, if that means what I think it means! Yeah, I probably will make it up for you! But some mornings after I've been at it, I wouldn't mind being forced not to drink. I don't miss it that much when I'm not drinking, it just feels so good when I do. (Not NEARLY as good as good sex, BTW, but that's gone away from my marriage, so I'm left with the booze!)<P>SHA - Great to hear from you and thanks for the coffee. LOL on expression "light in the loafers." As to Clark(e), well, that OTHER Clark (of "Lois and Clark") is no slouch in the sack, I suspect.<P>--Wex<P>