Jim how do I tell him that when I am a nervous wreck about calling him in general.He told my GF that he knows I ma back and have changed and knows I love him.And when she told him it sounded like he was bothered when he mentioned me having a BF,he reponded that I could do whatever I wanted cuz we aren't together.How is me pressuring him going to make that change or things any better?The house is his and he would be really mean if I tried to move back in.My mom says nothing will change until he gets over his anger and only time will heal that.I really wish I had my old confident self back.I don't know where she is anymore and I could really use her now!

First of all, the house is 50% yours. I don't care what you signed over to him or whose name it's in, you are married, so the house is 50% yours. You could get a lawyer to give you an injunction tomorrow and get back in the house. Who cares if you piss him off? It's better than never seeing him again, isn't it? I guess if you move back in, then he can't act single any more. Boo-freaking-hoo. The only way you can work out your marriage is to actually see the man. You don't have to be his doormat for eternity because you messed up. It is time to stand up for yourself. The first step is moving back in. I've told you to do this for months. You haven't listened. Are you better off today following others advice or worse? It's time to try something different. What are you afraid of? Quit being afraid and start actively working toward fixing things. Get some confidence back by doing something.

Living apart has definitely put so many nails in the coffin of my marriage that it just isn't funny.

I've done everything possible to get my WW back into the marital home and failed thus far.

Like Jmwc95 says, you need to pull out all the stops. You're losing him anyway. Now is the time to make all the moves and if they fail, then you can sit back and give him the space knowing you did everything humanly possible to save the marriage.

Take all the risks now.

I'm doing precisely that. Just handed my WW the plan B letter but not just that, I've already taken my son into my custody. Going for my daughter next, by injunction because ww won't let go of her without a fight. I may lose my life, but to me, it's better than losing my marriage.

Now she won't just be leaving me by "playing single", she will also be leaving her kids.

These things are REALLY hard to do, but take Jim's advice and do something!

You'll regret it a year later if you do nothing at all.