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Are people just totally out of their mind??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
And Dear Abby- the queen of understatement.
DEAR ABBY: Please help me. My lover and I have been disagreeing lately and are considering couples counseling. However, he keeps insisting that we see the marriage counselor he and his wife are currently seeing.
I want to make this relationship work, but I think it's inappropriate to receive counseling from the same one that they are currently seeing. What do you think? -- NEEDS THERAPY IN TEXAS
DEAR NEEDS THERAPY: I think you should definitely have some sessions with the therapist who is counseling your lover and his wife. They could prove enlightening. I'm willing to bet the farm that the same issues that have caused him to cheat on her are the ones at the root of your problems with him. And I'm not at all sure that "making this relationship work" would ultimately be in your best interests.
Me FWW 36
BH 50
D-day 1 2/18/06
D-day 2 3/28/06 (same EA)
NC 3/28/06 and going strong
7 total children
Mine/ours live with us
DS 15
DD 12
DD 21 months
"With all it's shams, lies, and broken dreams, life is still wonderful. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."
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LOL...I vote for a joint session.
That oughta clear a few things up in no time.
Cowards die many times before their deaths;
The valiant never taste of death but once ~Shakespeare
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Awesome...I would love to be the fly on the wall!
LMAO
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Oh wouldn't that be- enlightening!! But the poor BW. And this OW is off her rocker- it's inappropriate to have counseling with someone who is counseling her affair partner and his wife, but she can f*** him and it's appropriate????? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Maybe she should write Miss Manners on how to handle it??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Me FWW 36
BH 50
D-day 1 2/18/06
D-day 2 3/28/06 (same EA)
NC 3/28/06 and going strong
7 total children
Mine/ours live with us
DS 15
DD 12
DD 21 months
"With all it's shams, lies, and broken dreams, life is still wonderful. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."
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Unfreakingbelievable!
I'm cringing now that this woman is giving advice to millions of readers.
If I were her boss, I'd want to fire her.
Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.
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Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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The column was dropped from my paper cuz since her mom died it has not been the same.
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Mopey, are you serious? I heard her response as how most normal humans talk to crazy people...with our tongues-in-cheeks...the way she wrote her response, I envisioned her rolling her eyes...this was sarcasm.
Which totally said that infidelity was wrong and OW's were looney...hip hip hooray in my book!
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Yah, it wasn't Dear Abby I had a problem with, I read it and thought, "who in their right mind would actually form this type of question seriously? Really? She wants to make this realtionship with a married man work??????" I'm just shaking my head in disbelief. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Me FWW 36
BH 50
D-day 1 2/18/06
D-day 2 3/28/06 (same EA)
NC 3/28/06 and going strong
7 total children
Mine/ours live with us
DS 15
DD 12
DD 21 months
"With all it's shams, lies, and broken dreams, life is still wonderful. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."
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I was listening to the radio in my car going home last night. I'd obviously missed the first half of what was going on but when I switched on I heard the DJ say. "Ok, we want you to call in and help Dwayne with his problem. He's having an A with his married boss and he wants to know the best way to ask her to leave her H. Taking calls now."
First call was from a woman who said Dwayne should stop cheating and the only answer she had for him was that cheating causes heartbreak for all concerned.
Second caller agreed with first caller.
Then I started to feel such a combination of anger and pukiness, I switched off the radio and put in a CD.
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Oh, MrsRob...thank you for clarifying. The fog is this nutty, convoluted and inside out. Truly. When you spend all your time justifying, reasoning leaves the building. So it's not just that OW...it's all of them. And this one, I'd wager, believed she was reasonable and taking healthy action. I can really see where infidelity is very difficult to distinguish from mental illness. Funniest part was the sign off name...that's what had me laughing out loud! Hey, truth comes from even those who don't speak it... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> LA
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LMFAO. If I was Dear Abbey.
Dear Needs Therapy.
I would definitely suggest counseling for you. May I suggest an MC in Utah who specializes in polymorphic realtionships. Maybe a good sit down with your lovers wife would be a better idea. You guys could sit down and discuss your lovers needs so you have a better understanding on what he wants in a long term M. May I suggest that you dial 911 on your cell phone so you just have to hit redial in case his wife gets too upset.
May I also suggest that next time you are trying to find a partner for a long term committed relationship you try to stay away from men who are already in one.
BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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