My husband is not trustworthy anymore. 4 days after we came home from the hospital i walked in on him masterbating on the computer. For the past threee months he has done nothing but lie and watch porn behind my back and has even gone as far as looking on singles chats for them to send him nude pic's. well i now know he has and addiction and has gone to one Sexual addict meeting but the people there scare him they all started with porn like him but htem they went to far and did horrible things to thier children or other people. He is scared that this will happen to him but he doesn't want to go to the meeting anymore because he's afraid one of the men will rape him. i still think they would help him. i'ts only been a week since i last caught him with the porn and profile but he is seeking help through the programs. he joined the Air Force and i now live across the country from my family and i'm at home most of the time i don't know anyone so i'ts hard to cope with all of this. i'm trying to be a mother, a wife and stay me but this seems imposible. He says stupid hurtful things and doesn't relize how it effects me. i need to either lern how to trust him or go home or something i'm not sure, because i have to think of my daughter but i have to be truthful to myself. i really need the help so please reply to mrsrnichol@yahoo.com i'm still learning how to use the site. Thanks.

Your husband needs help now! I can speak as a former porn "addict". I really don't like the word addict in this context, but it does help convey that people with these tendencies indeed have a serious problem.

Pornography depicts sex in the most perverse way, as a purely physical act for the sole gratification of those involved. No love or emotion. Those that get hooked on porn have their minds corrupted, and become obsessed with what they see that they eventually seek that same gratification in real life.

That's one factor I see in my past infidelity with my wife. I was exposed to porn at a very young age, and had a perverted view of what sex is truly meant for, the physical expression of love b/w a husband & wife. Eventually, masturbating to porn was not enough, and I sought more, ignorant that my self-destructive lust could never be satisfied.

Be thankful that you caught your husband at this stage, hopefully before he has actually cheated on you in a PA. Yes, he should fear becoming one of those other men at the sex addicts meeting, and stop this behavior dead in its tracks. The military frowns upon this kind of behavior, so you may want to consider exposing his problem to his CO/Adm., whatever his commanding officer is in the Air Force.

God bless, and keep reading and learning from this site!