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I just learned the OW/wistress announced to a friend that she and my XH are separating.
It's been four years to the day that he moved out.
It's been two-and-a-half years since the big fake wedding for several hundred.
It's been two years since the the divorce was final.
I won't completely trust this info, because they have a "break-up-to-make-up" pattern -- but this little sucker has been running on empty for some time, by my estimation. The end may be drawn out, but the end is near.
Wow.
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Amazing how these nasty little things run right on schedule isn't it?
I still cannot get over that sham of a wedding A.M....it's one for the books!
I hope you are well!
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Yes, they almost always end. I really didn't think my ex's and OW's would, because they both gave up so much, and they were down and out "soulmates". But it ended after 3 and a half years, just a month after our divorce was final. I never got the specifics of who dumped who.
I felt good that it ended (verifies MB thoughts), but on the other hand, the whole thing seemed so pointless.
Hope your ex doesn't come sniffing around, wanting you back. Mine did, and was incredulous when I told him I wasn't interested in even talking about it. To him, he was just returning from a 3 and a half year vacation.
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Yeah
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I wonder if they are going to have a fake divorce too, complete with fake atty's. I bet the division of property is going to be particularly nasty in their case. To him, he was just returning from a 3 and a half year vacation. Whilst you spent 3 1/2 yrs in hail. Of course he was in a different kind of hail, as are all affair partners that end up (temporarily) together. Just ask me. Darkest, most ugly years of my life.
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Hope your ex doesn't come sniffing around, wanting you back. Mine did, and was incredulous when I told him I wasn't interested in even talking about it. To him, he was just returning from a 3 and a half year vacation. Been there, done that. Last week in fact. I was at a small concert series they were attending. Weird pass-bys -- you know what I mean. OW (I'm restoring her original title) was trying to make sure I noticed her. XH did one of those slow squeezing-by-me passes while I was trying to ignore him, as he was breathing all over me and trying to make eye contact (it was a tight area -- I couldn't get away). Closest this proud man has come to a "pass" in four years. At one concert, a friend told me that there was a very gross and inappropriate public display of affection. I told her it was because I was in the room. I thought they were out of gas. But you know, you can go a long long way on the fumes.
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I bet the division of property is going to be particularly nasty in their case. You bet your sweet bippie it will be. They've been married for two years. That entitles them to very little from each other. They are living in HER house. Thanks to a good lawyer, he gave away lots of his reserves to me two years ago -- and I believe squandered the rest. So he's got zip, except for what his enablers will provide. He really will be leaving in the middle of the night in his underpants. That's always assuming that this whispered announcement isn't some weird strategy in their twisted sitch. I even considered (given strange behavior last week) whether it's a ploy to draw me back into the triangle. They seemed to be anxious to do that. That merges into paranoia, however.
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argggh. When are you going to move away from that cult?
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Within two months. I have a job offer (not full-time, alas), and possibly a better (full-time, benefits) pending. (Cross your fingers.) Both will mean relocation.
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yhm
ed: you have mail, sorry. I thought you youn'uns all had all the lingo down pat.
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see edit.
ed: err, I mean, se.
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""It's been two-and-a-half years since the big fake wedding for several hundred."" I CAN'T BELIEVE IT HAS BEEN 2 1/2 YEARS!!!! Time is moving WAAAAYYYY too fast! And I agree about the "wedding"!! Most obnoxious thing I have every heard of....and that 200 people attended the sham is incredible. There has got to be a movie done about that, as soon as the Anna Nicole Smith bulletins dwindle away. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> kirk
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>I just learned the OW/wistress announced to a friend that she and my XH are separating.
Couldn't have happened to two more deserving....um....er...people...no, that's not right...critters...nope...
Ah....
Bottom feeders!
That's it.
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I wonder if they are going to have a fake divorce too, complete with fake atty's. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> So I take it they did get legally married, at some point after the fake wedding? And did the attendees at the wedding know it was fake and that the "groom" was still legally married to someone else? Mulan
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Some knew, some were pretending not to know, and many didn't ask. Hey! It was a party!
There was a huge pressure and rush to get the divorce finalized by the 14th February, 2005. I suspect they wanted to be married on Valentine's Day, and perhaps were.
So she managed to get her earlier green-card wedding out of the way.
Bottom-feeders, as Dealan-de said.
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A.M. - is your DD now away at college?
Glad to hear about the potential for work. I think you desperately need to be away from the environment you've been forced to stay in all that time.
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Yes, I do desperately need to leave -- but I haven't wanted to leap into a new fire, either. I'm in debt already. I want to build the groundwork for a great future, and hope I have done so.
Yes! My daughter is at a great university (UC-Santa Cruz), and she is doing very well! Whatever torture this has been for me -- it was worth it to see her through to graduation and beyond. She's is an absolutely super kid.
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