no accident...I believe God stepped in and said "No More" no more lies, no more deception, no more....Just found out for the second time in 7 years. We never got through the first one really. My counselor said that we never got to relationship issues because my WS never owned anything, but mainly shifted blame. So weird though. I love him, but why when he obviously has no love respect or regard for me. What is OK with that? We have been married 27 years with a long history of smoke & mirrors....I am not sure who this man is that I am married to. I found emails he had been sending...only because my email failed and I had to send a business email so was going to use my husbands email. I never would have gone into his email, but mine failed. No accidents... soo sooo very painful. Found out 3/13. I forwarded some of the yucky emails to my best friend as I read them...shaking overwhelmed... My husband checked and saw that I forwarded them..He is a bit unhappy with me for doing that. I did ask him to leave this time. If there is not true repentence, I dont know that I can do this again. I am sooo broken, but thankful at the same time for darkness being exposed.

2 times in 7 years? Ouch indeed. 27 years... wow. I'm sorry.
But "I never would have gone into his email"... this is not transperancy, which frankly he owed you after his first A. You don't need to apologize or feel guilty for "invading his privacy" -- he has no right to be angry except he is defensive because he got caught.
He who has nothing to hide, hides nothing -- Dr. Phil...

What is your plan now? Has he moved out? Do you want a divorce?

MSA