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Re: techie blog - about me
frognomore #1854755 04/13/07 01:20 PM
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The love bank statement, If I understand your question, wasn't refering to your sitch with your WW.

It is a reference to everyone else on this site.

YOu do not know where my LB is in regards to full, empty, positive or negative.

That was what that was about.

Your motivations for your M are yours. If they help your LB that is for you to decide.

BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby


When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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The child situation still sucks, though I want to be with our children more.


Why aren't you with them more?
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Why aren't you with them more?
Because my wife hasnt agreed to give me equal time with them so far.

So far, we have an informal schedule worked out. She's complained in the past that the existing sleepover schedule was an incredible concession on her part. (2/5, 3/4, with her having the bulk of the time!)
She wanted them every weeknight, with me sometimes seeing them "after school/daycare" on weekdays.
I said no way. So we eventually settled on this. Which she fumed about for months. literally.
But I'd like to have a fair share of nights. (3/4, 4/3)

Actually, what i'd really like, is for us both to be with them. I dont care about having them "exclusively for me", or taking away time "from her". I'd just like more time with them as well.

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techie #1854758 04/16/07 01:12 PM
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Because my wife hasnt agreed to give me equal time with them so far.

What????

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She wanted them every weeknight, with me sometimes seeing them "after school/daycare" on weekdays.
I said no way. So we eventually settled on this. Which she fumed about for months

So you are willing to see your kids less so she doesn't get mad.

Read my Crumbs comment.

You do realize that if you get a D you are hurting your chance at custody right.

In CA they are pretty fair toward men. The presumption being 50-50. Not true but presumed.

Now you are saying non verbally you are fine with this arrangement.

The courst love status quo. The status quo is what you are doing now.

So I am glad you aren't getting her fumed.

I hope you are content seeing your kids as much as you are now because that will probably happen.

BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby


When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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