My wife and I, as we are moving forward in recovery (and doing quite well!! I am amazed!), have begun to have a few conversations about the past. While much of it I knew, and have posted here...I'd thought I'd share a few excerpts that I thought relevent or that I liked from a recent conversation we had.

* She stated that so many people around her the last few years have just used her. Including my MIL. That al everyone around her was doing was sucking her dry. She was crying when she said this. I asked her if she thought I was or am doing that. She said "No...you are different. I know that now. You have been the only one looking out for me."

* She said the Troll pressured her, even as late as last September, to give up living in Virginia (which means she would have to leave the kids here with me) and come to Florida to live with him. I asked her if she hadnt of called me last October, if we hadnt begun this reconciliation, etc...where would she be right now? She said "in Florida." She began balling at that because she was realizing (more fog had been shed) that the Troll was just using her and trying to get her to give up everything for him. And that how could she have even considered leaving her children? I told her that now that she has been to the MB Weekend and knows this stuff...then she knows the answers to her questions!

* She said she refuses (and I agreed with her) to let ANYTHING or ANYONE come between us. That she will help defend the boundary around us at all costs.

And finally...my favorite quote of the night...she told me that the Troll began sleeping with a gun because of me! I have had a smile on my face for two days after she told me that!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

WOW, MORTARMAN!!!!

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MM, thats all great progress. Praise be to Him that changes hearts !

BTW I had a call from OM GF and she said OM asked her to beg me not to followup on my ( highly credible) package of threats to him. Its a great thing to strike fear in the hearts of the unrighteous.

Well done mortarman! I love hearing the good stuff.

Hopefully Gollum stays awake at night watching out for unmarked woodchippers.

By the way, my apologies but I blatantly invoked your name last night in a story on SDguys thread. Please don't come looking for me.

Very cool Mortarman!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


It's really quite a good feeling when the FWS finally gets out of the fog and "reality" returns.

Just last night my wife was telling me how much she is committed to loving me, how much she is "in love" with me, growing old with me, "until death do us part."

The interesting thing to me is that yesterday was the first time in a very long time that I got those little "twinges of insecurity" that get triggered. I had to drive near to a place that was very near to where the OM lives, and "'ol mister doubt" tried to play with my mind.

God's timing is always excellent.

And it never hurts to hear from your wife where her "head" is now!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

That's Awsome Mortarman!!

Even in sitches like mine these kinds of posts give me hope. If by some miracle I hear similar words come out of my WW's mouth someday I'll be screaming them on MB my self.
He11, I might put them on a bill board on the interstate!

I wish we had more of these on the forum. They really lift peoples spirits.

Thanks for making my day a little brighter

All true BobPure!! May he live in fear until the day he lay prostrate before the Lord and ask for forgiveness.

Wow indeed! I am still stunned at the turn around.

This stuff works folks!!

Dang unmarked woodchippers. So many wandering OPs falling into them. It is such a safety risk...someone should do something about it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

By the way...someone said you were the sippy cup guru on this site...any truth to that? With a new baby on the way...might need some advice (it has been 9 years since the last one!).

So true, FH. I love her head on her shoulders, instead of where it has been hiding the last few years!

You never know, BC! I thought mine was over. Court was done, everythign divided up...wife headed off to do who knows what. Then one day...it just happened.

God's timing. He is good!

Mortarman, if you don't mind my asking ... has your sitch been ongoing since 02? Just looking at your reg date. Mrs. M. talking to Troll as late as last Sept.?

Just wondering ...

Yep. It went on and off from the fall of 2001 until this last fall (2006). I didnt know about it until I returned from Bosnia in April 2002. Two false recoveries since then. And now...we are finally moving forward.

It has been a long road.

It's stories like these that freak me out.
And I thought I was made of steel.
btw, love your posts on VT. I work at home transcribing National Public Radio. And you were so right ... all the gun control nuts are crawling out of their closets. Here we go again ...

Mortarman,

You continue to inspire me on this road. Thanks for continuing to check in on me and offering your support and guidance. You have been and will be a blessing to us all.

May God continue to bestow His richest blessings on you.

How come?


Yes they are. Any excuse to ram home their agenda and to take more rights away. All for the safety of our children. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Yeah right!

Thanks Eph! And I still believe that you are only a couple miles behind me on the road I have travelled. I think you still will be one of MBs great success stories in the end.

MM, your post has me grinning from ear to ear...I just knew that all that "Amazing Grace" would someday payoff!!! Couldn't happen to a nicer fella!!! Mr. W and I can't wait to finally get to meet both of you!!!

Mrs. W

That will happen!! Soon, I think!

But hey...last I checked, the Troll would disagree with you, Mrs W. He doesnt think I am a nice fella. Even has to snuggle up with his gun at night.

How come?

Because I have been through enough and don't think I would be strong enough to fight this for years and years.

NC in place, but how many multiple ddays I have read on here, scares me. If there was contact again, or yet some other woman, I would be done--give him a blessing and send him on his way.

Oh, and listening to Laura Ingram right now--played a clip of Rosie O Donnell blasting the NRA. Yep, here we go again!