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"stoop" = lie?
Yeah, I wouldn't advocate that.
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I wouldn't either... hence why I haven't. I think I will just try harder to act like I don't care when she pulls something. Eventually, she will stop because she doesn't get any satisfaction from it. I don't want to appear like I am OK with her and my ex being together. It seems like that just gives them my stamp of approval. I don't want to give them any ideas that what they did is ok because they have been together long enough now. They could be together for 20 years and I still will think what they did was awful.
Loni
BW (me)46, XH 46, OW 42 (former friend)
DS26, DD23, DS21, SS17, SS27
EA since 2/04? PA?
He filed for divorce 3/8/06.
OW divorce final 3/10/06.
He left 3/13/06, "to think"
Gave me letter from lawyer on 3/17/06.
Divorce final 9/1/2006.
Happily remarried to new H 6/7/08
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She probably only got a TRO on you, not a full RO.
I would sit as close to your X as possible at the next event. Chat him up, make him laugh.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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LOL....I like how you think Newly. Actually, I have been working out and losing weight. I have this whole plan to be the best looking I have ever been. Last time I saw the OW, she was gaining weight again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> And as I think about it, I know that when she gains weight, her self-esteem suffers and she seeks out male attention. Wouldn't surprise me if she started cheating on my XH soon.
Loni
BW (me)46, XH 46, OW 42 (former friend)
DS26, DD23, DS21, SS17, SS27
EA since 2/04? PA?
He filed for divorce 3/8/06.
OW divorce final 3/10/06.
He left 3/13/06, "to think"
Gave me letter from lawyer on 3/17/06.
Divorce final 9/1/2006.
Happily remarried to new H 6/7/08
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Don't forget to wear perfume.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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LOL.... of course. Tommy Girl anyone?
Loni
BW (me)46, XH 46, OW 42 (former friend)
DS26, DD23, DS21, SS17, SS27
EA since 2/04? PA?
He filed for divorce 3/8/06.
OW divorce final 3/10/06.
He left 3/13/06, "to think"
Gave me letter from lawyer on 3/17/06.
Divorce final 9/1/2006.
Happily remarried to new H 6/7/08
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update..... court is on the 4th and now he is accusing me of watching internet porn in front of my kids. Anyone want to throw some prayers up for me?
Loni
BW (me)46, XH 46, OW 42 (former friend)
DS26, DD23, DS21, SS17, SS27
EA since 2/04? PA?
He filed for divorce 3/8/06.
OW divorce final 3/10/06.
He left 3/13/06, "to think"
Gave me letter from lawyer on 3/17/06.
Divorce final 9/1/2006.
Happily remarried to new H 6/7/08
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Stay strong. Remember, the judge will see through outlandish claims, and they really do seem to sense BS.
Accusers who lie in court really infuriate judges,and if that's the case, he'll get browbeaten by the judge.
May God bless you and your family through this difficult time. And while you'd like to think it is over with this next court date, it won't be over for 4 years (til DS is 18).
Good luck.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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You and your family are still in our prayers.
Judges have incredable BS detectors! They'll see right through this!
Stay Strong!
The Walking Family
WTF
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thanks to both of you. WTF....my phone died and lost your number with it.... feel free for you and your wife to call at any time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I really hope that the judge does sense the truth because I have had a lot of bad experiences in the past with this divorce. Human nature continues to amaze me.
Loni
BW (me)46, XH 46, OW 42 (former friend)
DS26, DD23, DS21, SS17, SS27
EA since 2/04? PA?
He filed for divorce 3/8/06.
OW divorce final 3/10/06.
He left 3/13/06, "to think"
Gave me letter from lawyer on 3/17/06.
Divorce final 9/1/2006.
Happily remarried to new H 6/7/08
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Mrs. Field and I were thinking about you Loni.
How did things for you in court?
WTF
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