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I'm glad you seem to want to work on your marriage and aren't bashing your wife. [/color] There have been some negative posters on these boards in the last six months which was unfortunate.
Rockpyle said:
I was told by a friend that I should document everything. Can anyone tell me what that means exactly, how that is done, and what to document?
This could be as detailed as you want to be - day by day what your W did (or didn't do) and what you did as a father, husband, and provider. For example, if your wife didn't come home until 2am, or didn't pick up your child from school, or had a secretive type of phone call, write it down. This will help bolster any case you might have showing her as an unfit (or noncustodial) parent. If you note the day, time, and circumstances (and how it affected you or the kids) that is best. Medical history is good, but noting the effects would be better.
If we divorce, what becomes of the house?
This depends on your state, your lawyer, and your wife's wishes, among other things. Each state has different laws. Check out
Divorce Source ,
Divorce Info , and
Divorce Netfor the laws where you live. Doing this does not mean you are pro-divorce, it means you're being proactive in preparing yourself, your kids, and your assets if this were to occur. Each couple can work out different strategies to the divide the house, assets, retirement, etc. to whatever they can agree on. I imagine this might depend a lot on your wife's mental and emotional state.
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Please keep in mind that each person's situation is different. [/color]
In regards to equitable distribution of assets ...could I give the most of the profits and agree to not pay alimony of any kind? Does that ever work out? We've only been married six years so I do not think she could get permanent alimony
Again, there are different factors for alimony for each state. Just because you've only been married six years doesn't mean you won't have to pay. You should definitely plan on child support (again, the laws of states differ).
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Do some research and see where you're heading, financially. [/color] Have you spoken to a lawyer yet?