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Re: Could Use A Little Help stonecold #1894944 07/01/07 01:00 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Stonecold: Quote Any guy who will leave his wife and baby behind for someone he barely knows is not the kind of person she deserves in the long run. "person she deserves" .... is irrelevant if OM-cheating-scum-bag is the person she chooses IF WW chooses such a person she deserves him in my opinion LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Could Use A Little Help Pepperband #1894945 07/01/07 01:20 PM
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stonecold Member S Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 232	I guess I'm still holding out hope that Jethro's WW will get rid of the OM, sooner rather than later. If divorce is in their future, so be it. But while this loser is in the picture, all motivations are suspect. I hope they can avoid some of the pain and heartache that many of us went through, but I guess the chances for that are remote. Affairs suck.

Re: Could Use A Little Help stonecold #1894946 07/01/07 01:27 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote Affairs suck. [color:"red"] EGG ZAK LEE [/color] LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Could Use A Little Help Pepperband #1894947 07/01/07 03:23 PM
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111 J Jethro99 OP Member
OP Jethro99 Member J Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111	I'm at the end of my rope and the fun hasn't even really started. I appreciate all the advice here. The GF thread was pretty harrowing. His case parallels mine so closely it's spooky. I hope I've got what it takes to see this through. Trying to get by.

Re: Could Use A Little Help Jethro99 #1894948 07/01/07 07:21 PM
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stonecold Member S Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 232	bump. does anybody have any words of encouragement, or is Jethro's life going to be a chit sandwich for a long time?

Re: Could Use A Little Help stonecold #1894949 07/01/07 07:57 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote bump. does anybody have any words of encouragement, or is Jethro's life going to be a chit sandwich for a long time? it's going to be a bumpy road I ain't gonna lie I am a big proponent of making part of Plan A very UNcomfortable for the waywards IF WW goes off to "find herself" or "test her feelings" for OM-snake-man ... I'd advise Jethro to make certain that when WW returns home the house is ~e m p t y~ NO FAMILY just a note: "Hi dear WW, We decided to go off for a little mini-holiday ourselves. Don't worry. Be back soon. Love you. Bye." >Don't turn on your cell phone. >Don't tell her where you're off to. >Don't tell her exactly when you can be expected home ("soon" is close enuff). >Don't nag/whine/ argue about where she was and what she was doing with OM ... just make it known that you and kids will not be automatically available when she returns >Do keep a journal of your trips with the kids (and also note why WW was not with you and the kids) >put a GPS on her vehicle, so you can document her comings and goings LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Could Use A Little Help stonecold #1894950 07/01/07 08:49 PM
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111 J Jethro99 OP Member
OP Jethro99 Member J Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111	"It's a big chit sandwich, and we all gotta take a bite." -- Full Metal Jacket Had a great night at the house. I made a pasta with a bolognese sauce for eight, complete with salad and wine. For dessert there was ice cream sundaes. I couldn't choke down much. The weight loss has slowed, but continues. Meanwhile, on the professional side of my life, things have never looked better. When I get calls on Sunday evening from people wanting to give me jobs I all of a sudden feel like the prettiest girl at the prom. Either things are not as bad as I thought, or the first Stags Leap District cab I've had in weeks is doing what it's supposed to do. Trying to get by.

Re: Could Use A Little Help DELETED Jethro99 #1894951 07/02/07 06:53 AM
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OP Jethro99 Member J Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111	Post deleted by Jethro99 Trying to get by.

Re: Could Use A Little Help DELETED Jethro99 #1894952 07/02/07 05:52 PM
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OP Jethro99 Member J Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111	Post deleted by Jethro99 Trying to get by.

Re: Could Use A Little Help Jethro99 #1894953 07/02/07 06:14 PM
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Resilient Member R Joined: Jun 2000 Posts: 8,069	Here's how I see it. You don't want a divorce, but its essential you protect yourself and your children financially in a legal sense. You remain in Plan A until you feel your love is draining where you cannot restrain from love busting, then enter Plan B. You communicate to your attorney that he is to make sure to cover all bases regarding the finances and the child custody short of divorce, while you continue in Plan A. Please, please, take care of yourself. I know how you feel, but you ARE strong enough to fight for what is right both for yourself and your children. We're here for you. Jo

Re: Could Use A Little Help DELETED Resilient #1894954 07/02/07 06:30 PM
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OP Jethro99 Member J Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111	Post deleted by Jethro99 Trying to get by.

Re: Could Use A Little Help Jethro99 #1894955 07/02/07 06:36 PM
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Resilient Member R Joined: Jun 2000 Posts: 8,069	Thats perfect and very Plan A. And of course, be sure she knows that you want to recover the marriage. Have you read Pepperband's "The Carrot and The Stick" yet?

Re: Could Use A Little Help Resilient #1894956 07/02/07 06:47 PM
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111 J Jethro99 OP Member
OP Jethro99 Member J Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111	Quote Have you read Pepperband's "The Carrot and The Stick" yet? Yep. I've been doing a fairly good job following the plan for the past two weeks. I'll just keep on with it. I'm hoping for the best, planning for the worst. Trying to get by.

Re: Could Use A Little Help Jethro99 #1894957 07/02/07 07:39 PM
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Resilient Member R Joined: Jun 2000 Posts: 8,069	Okay, I'll send you my delish green goo guac recipe. Tortilla chips optional.

Re: Could Use A Little Help Resilient #1894958 07/02/07 07:54 PM
Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 232 S stonecold Member
stonecold Member S Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 232	resilient- <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Re: Could Use A Little Help stonecold #1894959 07/02/07 07:58 PM
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111 J Jethro99 OP Member
OP Jethro99 Member J Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111	Just doing a little clean up. Anyone who wants to delete their posts -- especially the ones with long quotes in them -- is welcome to do so. I'll keep everyone informed on my status, but for now don't expect a whole lot of detail Trying to get by.

Re: Could Use A Little Help Jethro99 #1894960 07/02/07 08:02 PM
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stonecold Member S Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 232	Wouldn't hurt if anyone wants to direct anything to WW... It might get read.

Re: Could Use A Little Help piojitos #1894961 07/03/07 03:31 AM
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111 J Jethro99 OP Member
OP Jethro99 Member J Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 111	Can't sleep. When I'm awake at least I can think about what I still have. When I'm asleep I can't control where my brain goes. Trying to get by.

Re: Could Use A Little Help Jethro99 #1894962 07/03/07 07:13 AM
Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 232 S stonecold Member
stonecold Member S Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 232	Sorry to say, that doesn't go away. At least it hasn't for me, yet.

Re: Could Use A Little Help stonecold #1894963 07/03/07 08:30 AM
Joined: Jun 2000 Posts: 8,069 R Resilient Member
Resilient Member R Joined: Jun 2000 Posts: 8,069	I did my clean-up work and replaced post content with food talk.

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