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Well... Seeing as how i wouldnt usually post publically my problem it is very well something i cant handle on my own... so please people help me i dont know what to do about this...
Me and my boyfriend jason have been together 2 1/2 years going on three in Feb. we have had two children together and i think to myself personally thats the problem.. lol well let me tell you whats going on... you see when he and i first got together sometimes my very touch would give him an orgasm.. now.. its like hes not sexually attracted to me anymore it takes him forever to orgasm now and tonight i tried giving him oral and he didnt get orgasm so i just gave up i am wondering if its my body or something.. i had my son and then three monthes later i got preganent with my daughter and i just had her on thursday... This is the thing should i break off the relationship? i feel undesirable and it makes me feel like crap... or does anyone think that there is more to it?? or something i should do? PLEASE HELP ME I HAVE NO ONE ELSE TO TURN TO... Thanks..
Seksiebunny
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I am going through a similar thing but my kids are 3 and 2. I don't know what to tell you except i don't think it is you. Talk to him and don't assume that you are not attractive or desirable. That is the mistake i made, you need to talk about it. Ask him what makes him feel good, try and meet his needs and understand that he is under pressure too. Tell him what you need, keep it small and achievable. Your kids need you two to be together and a team. so talk to each other and let him know that you want to make him happy and that you are choosing him.
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Am I missing something here, or did you say you have had 2 children by a man who has not married you? Perhaps his lack of commitment has something to do with your lack of desire. He needs to address that with himself, then with you.
Don't demand marriage. Just ask what he intends to do. You should have done that over 3 years ago. If he waffles, move on. There is a man out there who will marry you and love the children he is failing to love.
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