I'm ROFL that they locked Orchid's thread. I have no idea why. I'm going to ask Justuss about it.
Anywho...I am quoting you from that thread:
These are not honest behaviors.
People of good will can disagree.
When misdirection, misrepresentation and mockery are used,
Then I question the good will.
And I question the integrity
Of the people who persistantly choose that path.
I have watched this pattern appear on the forum.
And then the swirling begins.
Insults disguised as humor.
A call out to one's fellow friends.
A flurry of silliness.
That shuts down discussion.
That distracts from the topic.
Nothing wrong with humor.
Nothing wrong with silliness.
Except when it is being wielded as a weapon.
Except when it is being used to attack.
Except when it is used to demean.
Except when it is used to discount an "opponent".
I've seen this pattern on this forum.
I also saw it in highschool.
I can't thank you enough...guess I ought to at least say it once...LOL...Thank you! Thank you! I have posted that figuring out my boundaries on posts has been like nailing jello to a tree...and you really helped me by showing the flip side of what I learned to DEAL with gaslighting...
I found out when we are commnicating with others, best to stay on topic/message. Don't take the bait. Own your own stuff and do so honestly. Oh, and one more and I can't think of it...might still be don't get off topic. LOL. I just did. I do that a lot.
Thank you hugely for being here and posting.
Your three M's...I tend to get off topic when a response to me is misdirecting me...I take the bait. Same for when my words are misrepresented...whoa, that's a stinger...and definitely when I hear myself being mocked. Now, all three of those have my half of perception...and their half of inflamatory (knowingly) adjectives.
Feeling defensive is when I'm signalling myself to one of those three M's...
Oh, what do you think of this...that silliness, humor, bluntness, care-filled wording--all the STYLES we post in are expressions of THE POSTER...
Just as CONTENT is from our life experiences, so are styles part of them, as well. Good to know when others are using derision, mocking, ridiculing...that's all about them.
Am I getting this?
Gotta email Justuss and ask how in the world Orchid's 2x4 poll thread got locked.
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...WHILE I WAS READING IT, no less. That's too funny to me.
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