May 2001, WS threw our family into turmoil with his affair. After 4 months, an intervention, a MB weekend, then 5 months of seemingly sincere effort to make good on promises, he and I settled into a "new phase of our marriage."
Fast forward to this week, I found nauseatingly similar evidence he's doing it again... Confronted him and yes he's "been a bad boy again".
He says many things, probably none of them true. The one that he's sticking to is his plan to move out to follow his dream (I've been holding him back for 23 years...)
So today we tell our 2 teenagers...they know "something" is going on.
HOW do wse tell them? How can we convey the information in a suitable way?

It would be hard for many people to want to try again when they find out their spouse is a serial cheater.

There is no "easy" way to tell your children. You prepare yourself, and you tell them.

Be calm yourself.
Be prepared to calm them.
Use reason -
Tell them your feelings about what you believe you will do.
Or
Tell them you need time to figure it out.

What are you thinking?
What do you want to do this time around?

BTW, weekends are often slow - please don't think it's you.

SS

Well we have a 14 year old daughter and decided to sit down and tell her together. It was a bolt out of the blue as we had protected her from the details. We told her that we wasnt getting along and that rather than her live in a house where there was an atmosphere and arguing we felt that it would be better if Dad moved out for awhile. We both told her how much we loved her and the most important thing was that she saw us together and united in the fact that we would always love her and be there for her. Obviously she was upset but could understand and told me after he had gone that she was glad we did it together. For me its only been just over a week and I know my situation may be different but we are adamant that we will be united when she is around and we will get on and talk and not argue. After all our children deserve nothing less as they are the innocent party in the mess that our so called loved ones create!! Hope this helps.

Loubie,

I imagine how difficult it must have been to drop a bomb like that in front of your teenager. Give yourself some credit. She took it well, after the initial (and expected) reaction of being upset.

I'd go so far as to say that considering how well your 14 year old handled it, it reflects good parenting on your end. Keep on loving them and they will appreciate it always --- regardless of how your M turns out.

Lots of luck to you.