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I just found my conclusive evidence. I've been posting here and there and now I'm finally out of the fog. I can't say I'm feeling any better now that I know but I do feel like a giant weight of sadness and uncertainty has been lifted off my chest.
Feeling lonely, depression, anger, disbelief, I'm sure plenty of the people here know what I'm going through right now. I'm not going to work it out with her and will seek to file a divorce.
There's really no marriage to save. We've only been married for 2 years, and I believe this is the second or third PA she's had. We don't have kids.
I'm going to be filing for a divorce next week as well as getting tested for STDs. It's an amazingly difficult time. As much as I didn't want to believe it the people here analyzed the situation perfectly. *sob*
Anybody have any tips for settling assets in the divorce?
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Joined: Apr 2006
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Take what you can while you can.
Act like you know nothing and it's business as usual, all the wile stripping any and all assets.
When there is nothing left, then open with a full broadside and send her to the bottom burning.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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You are so lucky you found out when you did, instead of having more years go by. Her 2nd or 3rd PA? She obviously has a problem. I feel very sorry for your SS. He's at such a vulnerable age.
Anyway, the world is now yours for the taking. Lots of women your age looking for good men! LOL
Me BS (41)
FWH (43)
DS 15
DS 10
together since I was 17 (24 yrs)
Married 17 yrs.
dday#1 11/05
MC 02/06 NC broken at same time w/o my knowledge
dday#2 05/06
Seperated 05/06-09/06
Reconciled 09/06 so far so good since
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Posts: 982
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Protect yourself and protect your assets for any marriage and children you may have in your future. She left the marriage. She had multiple PAs. Do not feel guilty about protecting your assets in the D.
Also, do you have any keep sakes in your home? Things that have sentimental value to you? If so, protect them. Also, change the locks on your home now if you have not already done this.
My best to you.
Last edited by lake53; 07/20/07 09:11 AM.
Lake
BW-53
FWH-54
H had EA 3 weeks 06
Married 1977
N C 4-10-06
3 DSs
In Recovery
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By the sound of it, you really wished what you found out wasn't true. Am sorry you had to find out it was.
If you must talk about assets, take care first of what means the most to you, and fight for that. It's up to you if you want to leave her with nothing. I guess it really depends on the kind of counsel you each come up with.
Glad no kids had to be involved in this situation.
Lots of luck to you.
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