Me and my husband have been married only 2 months. We found out that on our honeymoon, we got pregnant. I have a 4-year old from a previous relationship, but my husband takes full responsibility for him. My husband works offshore, so he's only home 6 days a month. Our relationship has worked fine like this for the past 2 years. However, now that i'm pregnant, we are fighting more than we ever have. He constantly says really hurtful things to me, like "You're just a reminder of how f'd up my life is" and "The worse thing I ever did was marry you." I don't understand why my really sweet loving guy is saying these really hurtful things to me after only 2 months of marriage. He says he's excited about that baby (his first). But he doesn't act like he is. He never tells me he loves me anymore. We used to talk every single day while he's out there working. Now I'm lucky to talk to him once a week. I'm having some other problems with my first child's father wanting visitation and we're going to court over that. Also, I've had 3 miscarriages in 18 months with my husband, so my doctor is considering me a high-risk pregnancy. I told my husband I don't want him coming back home when he gets off the boat if he is going to talk and treat me this way. He doesn't even care. He just says that's fine. IT'S NOT FINE! I'm going crazy here! I love my husband very much and have always supported him with whatever he wanted to do. I feel like he should be a little more supportive of me right now while i'm pregnant with his child. Not to mention, everything we ever said in our wedding vows has been totally disregarded, i.e. love, honor, sickness, etc. I know he had an affair with a girl like 4 different times before we were married... But we got past that. Every time he went to her for "comfort" was b/c me and him argued or something. And he always acted really cold towards me. I can't help but feel like now if I don't do something to save my marriage, she is where he is going to go again ( if he's not already talking to her). I'm really depressed over this and I feel like I'm a failure at everything. I'm failing my son by being tired and depressed all the time. I don't want to work b/c my morning sickness is so severe. I don't have the energy to clean my house or go anywhere. I don't want sex. We've been together 3 years, but i can't make our marriage work for 2 months! Everyone thinks our marriage is perfect so I don't have anyone to talk about this. If anyone out there could give me some kind of insight or advice, it would be greatly appreciated.

welcome to MB. May I recommend you move your post over to general questions II? This board is really for people who have been affected by a child from an affair and it does not get much traffic. In the meantime read up on the basic concepts of the site. There may be a reason you are posting on an infidelity board.

I will answer u anyways.. first off now that ur pregnant u may be fighting more than ever because of "you" ha ha you may not realize it because i didnt either.. i just got put on something called zoloft and that has stopped me and my hunny's fighting.. i feel much calmer and not so irrated with him.. honestly.. i know what its like to have no one to talk to.. hey thats why im here at this site! to get and give advice! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Ne how i would tell him how much you appreciate how hard he is working and that you are very stressed out more than usual because you are pregnant and it makes things a bit complex... and i would try talking to your doctor about taking something like zoloft to help calm everything down... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> trust me it helps A LOT!