ok, this is my new "happy thread".
i am up to almost 20 pounds lost since starting this new way of eating!!!!! wooooohoooooo!

i haven't been able to exercise much this week with work and vbs, i went right from one to the other all week but now that that is done i am back at kick butt taebo! i am so psyched about this. it is just falling off. i will be at my goal in no time.

my job is going really well, i was SWAMPED yesterday and thank you god the money is sweet. and it is my own business so i love it. plus, one of the shop owners' aunts owns a tanning salon in town so i think i may hook up a tan here soon! the privelages of knowing people. LOL

have a great sunday everyone. i just got home from church, have to mow and vacuum and fold laundry and some other boring stuff... than back to church tonight.

mlhb

oh, and i am also rescheduling with my therapist for this week. i couldn't go last week due to vbs and because i just went ahead and utilized my pastor. BUT, i think right now i will do both: pastor for spiritual guidance and therapist for mental guidance (lol) i saw my pastor yesterday so now i just need the other.

i know for me right now it is what is for the best.

mlhb

oh, and i almost forgot... LOOSE JEANS! wooohoo!

betchya i am gonna be down a size here pretty quick.

just gotta becareful not to lose the chest.. it is my best assett <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

mlhb

Congratulations mlhb... I know how good that feels! Once you start seeing results it is so easy to keep it going.

What is your new diet??? I have at least 20 to loose.

It sounds like your doing a great job of taking care of yourself!

Even though I have great days of recovery... I'm finding it is something I'm going to have to work at everyday... ooohh boy! I'm also searching, searching for a job!!! Neeeed one!

Keep up the great work...you're my champion today!
Lamplight

Hi!
exercising when i can and cutting way back and making healthy choices.

gotta run!

mlhb

Hi mlhb,

Glad to hear about this happy thread.We need it around here!

I don't have any weight to lose ( see other thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />) but,I do intend to keep working my behind off to get finely tuned.I'm already in great shape but I aiming even higher.Plus it keeps my mind off other things.

I am happy for you that you are feeling good.Hope you have a great week! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hi ab!

yes, i am busily working towards my goal.i have some hot clothes in my closet screaming my name and it is time they got out! i am almost down a size and have just been doing great with this. :-)

my week will go well because i won't let it NOT go well! lol
i love my business and it is going AWESOME! i am so blessed right now. i have clients left and right and get paid in cash every single day from it. the shop owners are friends and they just charge me a small fee for my corner of the shop every week. all the other money i make I KEEP IN MY POCKET!!! WHOO HOO!

yes, only happy on this thread allowed.
mlhb

happy tuesday!!!

i got to wear some stuff today i haven't worn in a while... woo hoo! i love that i have finally broken this plateau i have been on. it is great. i feel great. and getting and feeling thinner and thinner every day. i am getting a new hair style this week and started tanning today too. oh the perks of working in a salon ;-)

did my nails too. (well, i am the nail girl after all!) fingers and toes. oh, i look like a princess hehe

how is everyone else today?

mlhb

my therapist called me tonight...

she fit me in on thursday morning.
i am looking forward to it.
i am overdue.

mlhb

i think this has become my daily marriage builders blog! haha

keep me in your thoughts... i see my therapist here this morning and i am thankful relieved and excited and a little nervous as well. i know she will be brutally honest with me. i sure hope i can take it....

mlhb

well, hello everyone. my name is mlhb and i am a codependent.

i do not recall when i saw my therapist the last time her using that term with me, but she must have. i am pretty much a classic case. as i am reading books on the topic i don't feel like that is fully me. i mean, for the most part, i do feel that people give back to me what i give to them, i do feel people are there for me when i need them.

my areas of issue are that i give freely and will put my own needs to the side for long periods of time in order to give. i like to fix things, take care of people, when they are sad or depressed or angry i like to offer solutions and sympathize (what i should be doing is empathizing NOT sympathizing). that i don't not enforce my boundaries but make excuses for others when they cross mine which leaves me feeling angry and hurt and frustrated and questioning myself. i do this in many areas including with my kids and friendships and relationships.

i know i did this stuff big time in my marriage. oh yes i did. through 3 years of infidelity i made excuses for him. i did not enforce my boundaries but instead gave him 5 thousand chances. "we're just friends" "no, i didn't sleep with her" "i am so sorry that was so stupid of me to do, i don't know why i did it" all classic lines from my ex. even when i had the proof that he was lying he would still say this stuff to me. what he did with ow he is living with right now was supposedly a "huge mistake, never should have happened, and we're just friends. i want nothing to do with her" yup, ok. that's why you are living with her now.

and every time he would tell me a lie i would believe him. he cheated over and over and i still let him live here.

yes, i look back at my marriage and i was about as codependent as they come.

and that is something i cannot have happen again.

i really am in no place knowing this now to be putting myself into a serious relationship or making long term future decisions. my therapist said it was totally fine for me to date (and i am only comfortable dating one man at a time and that is ok, that is my boundary and comfort level, that is what i need) it is just not ok for me to be making serious comittments at this point in time until i am fully healthy to do that. i am really ok with that. i know now i am not ready for serious and that is ok.

so i am reading some books on codependency and taking care of me. i will continue to see her for awhile. i must do this, it is not an option as far as i am concerned.

she did say that i am doing wonderful for the most part. that i am 150% healthier than i was last time i saw her. that my life is on a wonderful path and i am doing great with setting goals, etc. she was amazed at how good and healthy i looked, how confident. but i do need to learn how to be in relationships in a healthy way. and that really is a given after the marriage i had. and after what i grew up in.

i am NOT discouraged by this! i am doing what i need to do to be sure i am as healthy as i can be! it is another layer, as she called it, that i am looking at and dealing with. i am almost feel like a burden as been lifted from me. hurray, i am not crazy!

ok, gotta run. i have books i need to read.

mlhb

I lost 30 pounds when I got shot and kept the weight off through the patented wayward spouse's infidelity diet.

I plam on staying at a buck fifty for quite a while as there are bunches of single women here at my new job who find me intriguing.

hey, well good for you.
i will admit, some of my weight loss as of late is due in part to stress... had a tummy that has been in knots for a few weeks now and i can't eat when i am like that.

BUT, it gave me a kick in the butt to keep it going. i had stalled for awhile but am well on my way to my goal now. i like the results so i think i shall keep going :-)

mlhb

I think many of us have codependency in common.
And it just makes us more aware that our marriages were not partnerships as we had hoped, but we kept trying to make it work.

thanks newly but this is my happy thread.. don't wanna talk about codependency here or anywhere else anymore please. decided to keep it between me and my therapist.

but i do appreciate your response and i do agree with it.

any "happy" stuff to share? :-)

mlhb

i am so mad that my left ankle is so screwed up! ugh! i could only walk for about 40 minutes (plus it was really hot out) until my ankle got all swelled up and hurt like crazy. i am supposed to go to PT for it but just haven't gotten around to it. my dr wrote me a slip for it too! i know, bad me. think i will just do tae bo tomorrow morning, that doesn't seem to hurt my ankle at all.

clothes keep getting looser, hip hip hurray!

mlhb

I thought this was your "happy place" blondie. How is talking about your fat, sore ankle being happy????

How's things otherwise alphabet girl? I know from the volume of posting you've been doing there must be a computer close by at work. And from the look of it not much work is getting done!

Maybe sometime soon we can try and catch up on all the good stuff that has been happening for you???

duk

hey duk man! no computer at work.... i post on the weekends or morning or evening.

message me sometime.. you know where i am!

mlhb

my fat sore ankle LOL
no lie, it was killing me! stupid thing

the happy part is i was out walking and exercising anyway
:-)

i see my goal in site and i will get there no matter what.

mlhb

mlhb....

I'm happy for you mlhb. You remind me of myself...you sound like you may be a few weeks ahead of me...I hope I catch up....

Keep it up GHURL!!!!

Lamplight