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It's been a very long time since I posted here. H and I are finally back togerher after 5 very long years of pain and heartache. If I had it to do all over again I probably would have walked away the second I found out about the A and OW. At least I think I would have have.
Through it all I learned a lot about myself and my H and unfortunately the OW. I also gained an adorable step daughter who melts my heart.
Hating my H and OW did nothing for me except keep my rage alive and kept me from doing the things I needed to.
Wishing OW dead served no purpose. When I heard of her senseless death I cried like a baby and regreated every horrible thought I had of her. I still hated her but not in the same way. H and I had only been together 3 months when she died.
Too bad we can't know things before they happen, but then we'd never grow and be stronger and hopefully wiser.
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Apparently a lot has happened since the middle of 2005.
Hopefully your husband has stopped drinking.
I wish you well.
Larry
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Glad you came back for an update. Hope hubby has stopped drinking. Also I hope that whatever OW died from, it wasn't contagious.
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Also I hope that whatever OW died from, it wasn't contagious. That wasnt funny! lol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
BS (Me) 27
WH 26
M 03/2005
D-Day 06/20/2007
2 DS: 2.5 years and 1 year old
Plan A 8/04/2007
Plan B 10/06/2007
NC 10/12/2007
On the road to recovery 11/06/2007
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Waking - It was not meant to be funny. In her old posts, she mentioned that OW had multiple partners and was a drug user. Since there is an OC, it is obvious that they didn't use protection. I'm just concerned about the poster's health.
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Sounds like you're still having a hard time dealing with this Cyn.
You had to work with the emotions and information you had at the time, and did the best you could, I'm sure. We'd all do things different if we had the chance to go back with the knowledge we have today.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
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maybe I am a heartless person...but I wouldn't give a second thought to some pos other woman biting the dust...promiscuous, drug user, adulterer... my sympathy is better spent on the innocents that perish everyday.
I am sorry you are having a hard time with this...but for my part..if the OM dropped dead tomorrow, it wouldn't register one blip on my radar.
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